My son (21) met a girl about a year ago online and they quickly started a relationship and he moved in with her after a few weeks.
We didn't hear much from him after he moved 5 hours drive away to where she's from.
We knew she was bossy and he always did as she said and eventually he stopped contact with all his friends at her say and only spoke to us on loud speaker so she could listen in.
He came back home a couple of weeks ago saying it was all over and he was bruised where she'd kicked and punched him and he told us how he hadn't been aloud to speak to anyone and she verbally abused him the entire relationship and threatened to call the police and make up lies to get him arrested if he tries to leave.
After he left her she continued to threaten him and wished him dead.
Now he's gone back to her and although we're worried we know he's an adult and it's his choice but I can't forgive her after the way she's attacked him and the unforgettable things she has said I also don't want to lose him and know I need to respect his choice, I really thought he had seen the relationship for what it is.
She told him he's useless [post edited by MNHQ] and no one else will ever want him and he's nothing without her and put him down to the point he believes it all.
She's completely isolated him and he needs that support network but I don't know how best to play things.
I feel as though to be in his life I need to play to her tune like he does when really I don't want to play her toxic games I really don't know how to react, we've been civil and so far she's been civil to our face back but it's no secret that she's been trying to turn him against us, he's told us so.
I've reassured him he's none of the things she's said and we love him and will always be here if he needs us. Is there a lot more we can do or do we just play along with her for his sake?