To think that people shouldn't comment about your weight

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2 years ago I set out to lose weight, get fit and I said to myself that it would be the last time I would diet. I successfully lost around 3-4 stone through the COVID period and up until Christmas that year. I was around 14 stone and I am 5'6, 5'7 ish and got down to around 9'13/10'2.

I had achieved this through a mix of exercise and better, controlled eating. Last year, I managed to keep at the new way of eating (fewer carbs, less snacking, less takeaways and so forth) nothing banned as such, just being conscious of what and how much I was eating. Until just before Christmas, I stopped the exercise, started to eat more and generally didn't care.

After Christmas I stepped on the scales and found out that I had gained around a stone in weight. Of course, people at work started to comment. Oh you've put some weight on. See, you can't keep it off. I was stunned. I didn't know what to say to them. My work trousers are too tight (well I struggle to fit into them). As is my fleece/jacket.

I am surprised at the comments and a bit annoyed that people would actually comment.

I am now thinking that I should go back to the "healthier me" and start to eat better with more exercise. But, it has really upset me that people would comment about my weight.

Yes they should know it is inappropriate to comment and keep schtum.

It's down right rude, it's kinda the world we live in though. People open their mouths and come out with all sorts of s**t before they've actually thought about what they're saying. I've had customers come and tell me they've "seen more meat on a butchers pencil" and "is everything OK?? you look like you've lost weight". It's crap, I've found the way to stop people from saying it, is by mentioning their weight too, see if they like it.

It’s extremely rude of people to comment on your weight. If someone has been open about trying to lose or gain weight, it’s OK to compliment them I think, but in any other circumstance people need to keep quiet.

No, people shouldn’t comment.

But equally, you should eat properly for your health and general well-being, not because people have commented.

Rude. Personal comments that aren’t compliments are.

You’d be amazed tho, the people who come out with this stuff do it to everyone they’ve ever met.

They are rude people. I don't know why people comment on other people's weight ever, whether it's because they got thinner or larger. So many claim to be deep people and interested only in personality, yet set much in store by appearance.

It's awful of them to comment, but letting your annoyance at their poor behaviour undermine your efforts to do what's best for you is the very definition of cutting off your nose to spite your face. The two things are totally unconnected.

Yes it's very rude. But youve still achieved an amazing weight loss. Don't let them get you down.

Absolutely uncalled for! Probably said by people jealous of your success.

By all means go back to your regime if that's what you want, but pay no heed to them!

The only weight related comment allowed is ' oooh you're looking great'

My PA has gone from a size 14 to I reckon at least 30. She can't walk and has sores everywhere. I have spoken to HR as she can't do her job and is clearly miserable and depressed.

@HotPenguin thank you for your kind words!!

Partners and doctors should be able to comment on weight. any one else can fuck off

Odd and rude to make unsolicited comments about another person's weight. I think the kind of people who do it tend to have their own hang ups, which they project. I sometimes comment if I think someone has lost weight and would be pleased with the observation, but even then not always.

YANBU - it's rude.

On a positive note, a gain of a stone isn't much - if you go back to your healthy eating/exercise plan, you can shift it very quickly (if you want to).

Decide what weight you feel happiest at, whether that's your present weight or the lower weight, focus on maintaining it, and ignore any idiots offering unwanted opinions.

@ClariceQuiff thanks :) It has kind of motivated me into losing the gain. I know I feel happier smaller and I have a wardrobe full of clothes I don't fit!

I dunno why people do it; first day back from two may leaves and a 50 year old guy said ‘you look well all things considered’(!)

I’ve gained two dress sizes for context 🤭😂.

How very rude. They're clearly horrible people, who didn't like the fact you worked hard at something and succeeded. Ignore them, and do what makes you feel best about yourself.

Idont know why people think they can say what they like to you. You know youve put on weight you dont need to be told. Well done for losing 4 stone and even if you have put on a stone you have still lost 3. I wish I could.

People just shouldn’t comment full stop. I have a friend who likes to tell me I’ve lost weight. I don’t take it as a compliment as I don’t need her comments and I get the feeling she’s feeling competitive about it.

Unless you went on and on about how amazingly you'd lost weight then YANBU

Have you ever discussed your weight loss with them OP?

If no then fair enough but I work with a couple of people who talk about their 'weight loss journeys' a fair bit.

Then they're suddenly not so keen and quite offended when they put the weight back on, and people comment.

No one should comment on anyone's weight as its just sooooo rude and really skinny people suffer this sort of rudeness as well

@MarthaFokker

Have you ever discussed your weight loss with them OP?

If no then fair enough but I work with a couple of people who talk about their 'weight loss journeys' a fair bit.

Then they're suddenly not so keen and quite offended when they put the weight back on, and people comment.

Nope. As I said. I lost in the first year of COVID. I was working from home so nobody saw me for a while. Then I kept it off for most of last year too. Its only recently I have noticed.... and so have they

Hey I could join you for your story, of weight loss and then gaining most of it back. Like you, I'm astounded that people seem to think it's acceptable to comment that you've gained weight - it's rude, insensitive and shows poor social skills if you're the sort of person who does that.

I have been on the Fast800 Keto for 2 weeks now and dropped a dress size. It's quite hard to start with but if you want quick results in a very healthy way I would thoroughly recommend it. As you indicate, there's nothing better than feeling you can get into all your lovely clothes again.

Best of luck and I wish you well in whatever you do next.