Boyfriend problem

[LillyPJ]

My long distance partner is considering moving back to his home town over 3 hours away, which would make our relationship unviable. (I currently see him about once every 3 weeks for several days at a time.) He suddenly told me that in order to decide whether he'd be ok moving to a new area where he'd know nobody, he wanted to have no contact with his current friends (including me) for a week or two. We are now 3 days in, and I'm feeling annoyed! He didn't ask or discuss this with me beforehand. We used to chat on the phone at least once every day and the sudden silence is deafening. Worse - I feel frustrated that I can't tell him how I feel about it! I'm sure he thinks this is a rational way to help him decide. Am I being unreasonable in feeling hurt, annoyed and angry?

@Hoppinggreen

Have a listen to The Beautiful South song “a little time”

I agree, perfect song for this situation

Is there any update to this post? Did he get in touch?

Did you send that text or have you heard from him?

No proper discussions, no romance, no nothing.!

I sent the text. I hung up when he tried to phone me. I refused to talk to him - it was a relief! Thanks all!

Right! So how he feels and his needs are more important than how your feelings

You don't count. Youre an accessory to his life

Move on. Try to get over him and on with your life as a single person

Well done x

Well done!

It seems to be all about him. He has given no thought or consideration to his girlfriend's feelings.
Don't put up with it.
Do you really want this self-obsessed prick to remain in your life?
He clearly only loves himself.
Do yourself a favour--move on and find someone who loves, respects and considers you.

--oops, just saw update. Stick to your guns.

Nice one OP. X

Well done you,
He’s not a nice person

I'm glad you realise you deserve better.

Excellent work!

Well done OP, onwards and upwards. The entire thing is confusing. Why wouldn't he know anyone in his home town? Why would he never have contact with his friends if he moved to need to try that out? Assume as they was already a long distance relationship his friends are where he is not where you are so potentially not so far away.

Good update OP. There is better for you
Good luck

If he is so self centred as to think this little 'experiment' was in any way reasonable or fair, he is not worth knowing. Good for you for not putting up with the nonsense.

Well done OP, he's too selfish to be of use to anyone.

UHMMMMMM he's moving to his hometown and he doesn't no anyone?

Of I moved back to my home town there would be no-one I knew. None of my old friends live there any more, my family have moved away too. I am back there once a year for a week and I can go the entire time and not see anyone I know.

I feel frustrated that I can't tell him how I feel about it!

In your situation, I like to think I would take back control by saying 'it's been fun but this is not working for me' and end the relationship.

Then concentrate on finding someone who makes your life better, rather than this selfishness.

Well done, @LillyPJ

Hardly giving you much time before

As Judge Judy says ' if it doesn't sound right then it probably isn't'.

IMO this is a load of rubbish and I would suspect he has someone else.

Write him off, block, delete whatever and find someone who has better communication skills.

Well done.

Sounds very controlling of him.

Ah, but you can be in no doubt of how little he actually feels for you.
I know it hurts but he's done you a favour. Rip the plaster off, grieve for a bit if necessary & move on.
You want more from a relationship than he's prepared or possibly capable of giving.

Bored Zelda - same here. I'd know no one in my home town now.