Bit of background for context:
My husband has a great job, which he loves. He works 50-60 hours a week and earns lots of money.
I no longer work. Long story. Took a year out for health reasons and now can’t get back into the industry or income bracket I left.
Please note: I work freelance and part time. I also volunteer 3-4 days a week. And I have my own income.
AITB?
My husband does nothing around the house. No thing. I’m always surprised when he flushes the toilet for himself. If I ask him to take his cup into the Kitchen before bed or clean the sink after he has shaved he tells me “not my job”.
He throws a wobbly if I ask him to take the kitchen bin bag out to the dustbin or put his own clean pants in the drawer he is standing next to.
He tells me I lack attention to detail in my housekeeping. I tell him I am not “staff”.
He told me he finally wiped a small grubby mark off a wall at the weekend after waiting weeks to see if I’d do it.
I know. I know. I know. It all sounds so petty. There are people losing their lives and their homes in Ukraine. However- I can’t live like this for much longer.
P.S. I’m forbidden from hiring a Cleaner unless I return to working 40+ hours a week.
N.B. I have my own money. The house is perfectly clean and tidy, albeit “lived in”.
AIBU?