What is this one thing/method that helped you to get through a nasty break-up?

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Most of us have gone through break-ups, what is this ONE thing/method that helped you survive a bad break-up.

For me, it is exercise. Of course, my best friend dragged me out of bed and forced me to sign up.

Please share your tips/advices so other people can benefit from your experience - this winter is hard enough for many of us.

Got over my exh by getting under a fit soldier...

Absolutely get under someone else. Controversial maybe, but works a charm in my opinion.

Getting “interested” in someone else.
Completely cutting off contact with ex.
Keeping busy.

Exercise and also a fit male distraction.

Be pleased with yourself that you didn't think about them for one second out of a 24 hour day.

Then, you find yourself not thinking about them for 30 seconds in a 24 hour day.

Then a minute.

Then an hour.

Keep building.....you get the picture.

Also, deliberate distraction. Consciously make yourself think of something else. Or do something else.

No contact. No texts. No “friendly drinks”. If I had managed to stick to these rules, I would have got over him a lot quicker!

@ToffeeNotCoffee

Be pleased with yourself that you didn't think about them for one second out of a 24 hour day.

Then, you find yourself not thinking about them for 30 seconds in a 24 hour day.

Then a minute.

Then an hour.

Keep building.....you get the picture.

Also, deliberate distraction. Consciously make yourself think of something else. Or do something else.

Brilliant, thank you for putting is so beautifully.

Make "The List"
Every little thing that irritated you about them/ that you didn't like. Things they said, did, didn't do...

Evrry time you think maybe you should try and het back together, read The List.

Mumsnet!

getting a brilliant job the weekend that he dumped me for someone else. Having one aspect of your life go very right really helps make the break up bearable.

@Honeypickle

No contact. No texts. No “friendly drinks”. If I had managed to stick to these rules, I would have got over him a lot quicker!

Yes, this one works for me too.

Deleting all messages from him - emails, texts, WhatsApp’s, Facebook, everything. Also took all cards and letters from him and hid them under the spare bed in my parents’ house. Gave all the presents he’d given me to the charity shop.

Meant I couldn’t spend hours going through the things he’d sent me/ said to me and forced me to spend my time doing other, more positive things.

Highly recommend!

Delete every reminder - emails, messages, etc. Stop following them on SM. Get everything of theirs / everything they gave you out of the house.

Basically remove them from your line of sight, then go NC.

Crosspost @Movingsoon21!

@Rovinonmars

Absolutely get under someone else. Controversial maybe, but works a charm in my opinion.

Absolutely no judgement. Good for you! :)

Sertraline

Make an exciting plan, after my last (not nasty but sad) break up, I booked a solo trip somewhere I'd always wanted to go

Second a trip away. I worked abroad for 6 months. Also second no messaging or snooping on their SM.

No contact, exercise and a new male distraction

Did keep a journal help anyone? Like write down your feelings everyday?

Actually keeping messages helped me. They were so vile that reminded me what a nasty bastard he was.

*Writing all my thoughts and feelings down on a daily basis.
*Compiling the Ick List - my last one got to over 300 points!
*Absolutely no contact. Block, delete.
*Exercise
*Finding something else to focus on like re-decorating a room or something.

A few years of crochet then a fabulous new boyfriend.

Keeping an album of photos of myself fabulously happy, laughing, smiling etc, before I ever met him helped me know I could get there again.

What really helped longer term was meeting a much better new boyfriend (when I thought the previous one was 'the one'), now my lovely DH.

Don't listen to sad love songs. Only upbeat, feel good ones

Dance