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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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WIbu to refuse to pick up my ‘friends’ dogs s**t!?

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Sippingonginandjuice77 · 07/03/2022 13:03

Just that really!! So, there are 2 main reasons I won’t get a dog..1 I am allergic to most and 2 I just hate the thought of picking up after them. Of course my supposed friend knows this, but as she had just had her nails done, she asked me to pick up after her dog! She got really pissed off with me when I said no and said if ruins her nails it’s my fault. She picked it up and went off in a huff. So wise mumsnetters, wibu??

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LumpyandBumps · 07/03/2022 14:00

You weren’t unreasonable not to pick up her dog poo, and similarly she was not unreasonable in not picking you up to give you a lift.

Londoncallingtothefarawaytowns · 07/03/2022 14:01

Give me a laugh OP. Is it a Frenchie ? Or equally fashionable nonsense? Is she 15 years old?

Boake. She should’ve thought it through
Wonder if she would’ve just left it otherwise ….

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Sippingonginandjuice77 · 07/03/2022 14:02

@diddl I didn’t kick up a fuss or anything, but was a bit pissed as she had promised and it was for an important appointment, which she knew. I don’t do drama, so just said ok and got myself a cab, then carried on the friendship as normal. This situation has however got my back up

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BurntO · 07/03/2022 14:03

I’ve had plenty of dogs and would still feel a bit ew about picking up someone else’s dogs shit I’d have said no too!

Spidey66 · 07/03/2022 14:05

I'm a dog owner/lover. i have arthritis in my knees and still manage to pick up the dogs poo. Of course the owner needs to do it, unless there was some kind of emergency. Having your nails done is not one of those emergencies!

diddl · 07/03/2022 14:15

[quote Sippingonginandjuice77]@diddl I didn’t kick up a fuss or anything, but was a bit pissed as she had promised and it was for an important appointment, which she knew. I don’t do drama, so just said ok and got myself a cab, then carried on the friendship as normal. This situation has however got my back up[/quote]
Oh well if she had already said she would then that puts a different perspective on it.

If it was the first time she had had her nails done & she hadn't realised then I might have helped her.

She doesn't sound like a friend though-name calling because you won't pick up her dog shit!

Gilly12345 · 07/03/2022 14:34

Your friend is hilarious and I would tell she is having a laugh having a dog and expecting someone to clear up the dog mess.

Is she always an entitled princess?

Sparticuscaticus · 07/03/2022 14:59

I agree with PP is your friend a princess? You're not her staff. It's her dog and picking up dog poo is singly unpleaaant when you don't have a dog yourself. She's there and can do it

The fact she sent you this text shows how entitled and rude she is She has since text me saying I’m stuck up and selfish.

She is a particularly unpleasant madam isnt she? Does she usually talk to you that way? Or expect you to be staff for her?

I'd reply "don't ever text me like that again. I am not a servant - we are, or at least were, friends. I expect an apology, or don't bother contacting me again" but then I would be so angry she was calling me names for not doing her responsibilities! Boak 🤢, zero chance I would pick up dog poo for someone who was stood there with their own dog, I don't even have a dog!!

Her new nails will last 2-3 weeks - is she planning on buying in servants to do all the dogshit pick ups for all that time? I have many friends with lovely shellac nails- they use dog bags to pick up the poo not their actual nails 🤮🤮

Trisolaris · 07/03/2022 15:25

I can’t believe anyone thinks you are unreasonable.

I pay my cleaner but have made it clear to her that she is not responsible for the cats litter tray. Let alone asking someone to clear up after my pet who I wasn’t paying!

H4ppyC4mper · 07/03/2022 15:34

Well, I suppose there's no harm in asking but definitely no need to be a bitch if you decline! I don't get how having her nails done would stop her lifting shit in a bag?? I don't know how it works but if they were wet and could spoil then why have the dog with her at that time or if she's worried about scraping them on the ground, just lift the poop straight up?? If it was a messy one (jeez, probably thinking too much into this) just use the side of her hand in a new bag for the.. Excess... But... She sounds a bit craycray tbh, let her get on with it imo. Maybe she shouldn't take the dog out straight after getting her nails done 🤷🏼‍♀️

HopingForMyRainbowBaby · 07/03/2022 15:34

@Sippingonginandjuice77

Thanks all. I guess I was just questioning myself really. She has since text me saying I’m stuck up and selfish.. *@Arabellla* not usually, just seems to be when she has had certain beauty treatments done! She refused to give me a lift somewhere once as she didn’t want her new hairdo getting messed up by leaving the house

I think I'd be re evaluating the friendship

GADDay · 07/03/2022 15:35

You should teach her to play Turd Tennis.

Get a stick. Flick the shit into a bush/off the footpath. If need be return after nails have dried to retrieve said shit and dispose of it.

Chikapu · 07/03/2022 15:48

As a one-off, it wouldn't have bothered me to do it, if she expects you to follow the dog around with a bag every time he needs to poop that would be different.

BOOTS52 · 07/03/2022 15:59

She should not have even asked you to do that. What is wrong with her and storming off and mean nasty texts. I would just ignore her until she can see how wrong she is and bossy. So her nails are more important than looking after her dog and it's poop. I would never ask anyone to do that. She has an attitude problem and seems like she thinks is better than you.

Norma27 · 07/03/2022 16:31

My 3 best friends have dogs. I am an animal lover but have no pets. I also have never had my nails done. I’m not picking up any animals shit just because someone has had their nails done.

Mariposista · 07/03/2022 16:34

For goodness sake! I have a large dog (so everything comes in proportion), and I also get my nails done. I can honestly say I have never ruined a nail by picking up dear dog's poo, as I invert the bag over my hand if we are out or use a poop scoop if he chooses to do the deed in the garden! Is she claiming she picks it up with her bare hand???

Meandthesky · 07/03/2022 16:35

I love my friends dog but unless I was looking after it and she wasn’t with me, I would always expect her to pick up after it.

Your friend was being ridiculous, it’s her dog so it’s completely her responsibility to pick up its shit. If that somehow ruins her nails that’s her fault not yours (but would suggest there’s either something wrong with her nails or the way she picks up poo!)

Joolsin · 07/03/2022 16:35

Rank. I would rather lose the friendship than pick up her dogshit, which is the most foul substance on the planet.

girlmom21 · 07/03/2022 16:37

Why would picking it up ruin her nails? Does she stab the poo with her fingertips or something?

WhatTheWhoTheWhatThe · 07/03/2022 16:38

I have a dog and obviously pick up after it but I still feel oddly squeamish about picking up after other dogs so I would have said no too.

incognitoforthisone · 07/03/2022 16:48

YANBU, obviously. All my friends and family know I love dogs and I've grown up around them so I don't even mind picking up dog shit, but none of them would ever ask me to do it for their dog!

Also, if your friend is texting you to call you stuck up and selfish, she doesn't sound like any kind of friend I'd want around.

NewYearCalavicci · 07/03/2022 16:51

I agree with pp , she has lost the plot !

The only time I have picked up other people's dogs poo is if we happen to be out together and the other person was unable to bend over , on cruches / hurt back etc
I would offer then , but if they told me I had to then gtf !

Nsky · 07/03/2022 16:56

I had an annoying person, dog poo, outside my gate regularly, I bagged it, and said I think this belongs to you!
Also has a dog and naturally picked after him

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Sippingonginandjuice77 · 07/03/2022 18:45

Thanks all, you have all cheered me up!! Yes she can be very princessy and I have now pointed this out to her in response to her rude messages, along with adding that if that’s really what she thinks of me, then I think it’s time we take a break from our friendship until she can see how badly she has treated me over this and apologised.

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GoogleWhacked · 07/03/2022 20:24

Good for you @Sippingonginandjuice77! I hope she comes back with a heartfelt apology for her shitty behaviour 🤪

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