How do you get over pregnancy announcements?

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When you are struggling with infertility?

They're everywhere - every celebrity, everywhere I turn there's a bump.

How do you get over it? Does there become a time after so long when you no longer feel angry to see pregnancy announcements?

They make me feel sick and sad. Appreciate it makes me sound mean but I'm just speaking honestly.

What can I do?

Don't lose hope OP. I hope you don't mind me saying this and I realise I don't know your age, circumstances or health etc but my parents were unable to conceive for 14 years then two of us came along within 4 years of each other. Also my friend & her husband were infertile for 14 years as well and now have 6 children! All very close in age. No medical explanation ever found. So if it's not an impossibility then don't give up hope

My daughter's Auntie on her father's side has had a lot of fertility issues and still won't have anything to do with my child who is now 7. It's very sad. I feel for her, and do my best to be sympathetic and not let myself be angry on my child's behalf.

How long have you been ttc? For me it got a lot better after the first 3 years. It's been 6.5 now and it's not so raw. I think I've just let go of it a bit. It was causing too much suffering.

Totally recommend therapy. And seeking others in the same position.
Feel how you feel, don't push it away or judge yourself.
And self care, it's quite basic but don't spend too much time worrying, go outside, do a gratitude list, cry, buy yourself something nice. It's not easy x

I get you, OP. Just sending hugs.

Never been able to conceive, all my friends are on to baby number 2 or 3

it eats me up inside sometimes, the best advice I can give is even though it may feel like something is missing, you can’t give up. We may never have kids but keep doing things that make you happy, as wonderful as it could be, things for us could be even better. We just have to believe X

What a struggle this is for us 😔 We know we're supposed to feel happy and excited for the people around us who are getting pregnant, and although we may show it, there's so much pain, envy and even anger behind it all. I talk about this a lot with my therapist, that helps sometimes. Wishing all of you the very best
xx

It's hard and I'm sorry, it's taken 7 and a half years for us to conceive our child and these announcements always seemed to come around Christmas new year's etc and it spoilt them for me, I wanted to be so happy for my friends I genuinely did but there was part of me who was so jealous.

I agree it takes years and years. Even now at menopause age I still have this slightly grumpy demon on my shoulder that I have to smack down regularly when a heavily pregnant woman comes into view. I cope well sometimes and badly at other times. Try and be kind to yourself.

@namechangeanonymous How wouldn't you feel this way? I find it absolutely normal now and validate my feelings, because they simply make sense. Your feelings are totally valid. Wishing you all the best
xx

I am also into my 10 years TTC baby no2. My son is 14! Did you end up conceiving baby no2. This week I have had 3 friends on socials announce pregnancy, lots of celebs too! Soo heartbreaking, sometimes I struggle to even congratulate them and I feel mean. I just take my self away from socials. X

You don’t! Your alway slightly gut punched! Every Announcement, every baby shower invite!

I hear you I cried many of times. My best friend rang me to tell me she was pregnant with her third the day I had my IVF egg retrieval she felt awful!

are you having treatment? Have you had counselling. I have 2 IVF babies now! Sending you love

Oh no, I'm sure she felt awful! Everyone is on 2nd 3rd and 4th, I just feel left behind. Iv been told I have PCOS, told to loose weight. I did loose 5 stone and still nothing and no help. Put all the weight back on again, lost a stone, nothing, no medication or testing because I have a child already. And couldn't afford IVF all this time. I don't know ANYONE going through this and feel like no one understands. I have to take progesterone every 3 months to have a period. I stupidly still some times get hope after all these years and my heart breaks all over again. I should be able to live with knowing it's probably never going to happen again but I can't when I see it every where! People know I can't conceive but they never prewarn me about announcements, not that they should have to of course. i can't even speak to anyone about it, without bursting into tears so I just choose not to. When I have it's been so awkward. X

You don't. They just feel gradually less savage. Then one day you think "I'm too old to have a baby now anyway". Then very slowly you don't mind as much.