Myself and friend work in office and a very attractive young early 20s girl works with us. The guys obviously like her and believe me this thread is not about jealously-more about perspectives and boundaries.
Anyway a young male colleague the same age as her joined soon after her and she started inviting him out to bars 1 on 1 and to hang out with him. This lead to him trying to kiss her and she rejected it which lead to a row between them as he became clingy to her.
Anyway colleague who I am mates with told me and I pointed out that perhaps it was a bad idea for her to be asking him out 1 on 1 as he'd likely get the wrong idea. I pointed out that if a man were to ask me out for drinks 1 and 1 etc that I'd think he fancied me and that many people would take this idea regardless of gender.
Colleague got mad with me and said I was sexist etc. I said I wasn't and that I'd say the same for both genders. I am not saying men and women can't be friends but I know I will get roasted for saying this but she's a very attractive young women so of course a man would likely want more from her if she was asking him out 1 on 1 to cinema etc. I would say the exact same btw if it was an attractive man asking women out 1 on 1 to bars etc-that many women would get the idea he fancied her and would want more if she was accepted. So please don't start this into a sexist thread when I apply it to both genders.
Friend/colleague didn't take it well but just back story is that friend has lead men on before by going on holiday or away for wkends away with men 1 on 1 she knows who like her but she tells me she has no interest in sleeping with them or having anything romantic with them.
I don't find that appropriate as I would not go away for wkends with a man that I know fancies me when I have no interest in him as it's giving him false hope. AIBU here or what?