Is this negging or just rude?

[Pastamaus]

I had one date around a year ago with someone who is part of my wider friendship group. I bump into him once or twice a year. I didn't enjoy the date, he asked me to do him a favour (not sexual!) and when I declined he tried to make me feel bad. I turned down the offer of a second date. We are friends on FB and occasionally like/comment on each others posts. I spoke to him at Christmas and he was rude about my choice of radio station and the music I listen to so I excused myself from the conversation.
Last night he messaged to ask how I was. I replied 'Good thanks. You?' to which he replied 'You're quite annoying though. I'm just saying'. I didn't respond.
This morning he has followed that up with 'Only because...' and then 20 mins later 'Youre so fanciable'.
I'm going to call him out on this and ask him not to contact me again. I'm inclined to call it negging in my message but I want to make sure that's correct as I don't want to undermine my argument. So, is it negging?
I've looked it up and I'm still not sure.

It is i think but don’t let semantics stop you from making your point. It’s rude and he deserves to be called out and blocked.

Block and delete. He brings nothing positive.

Why does it matter?

Negging is rude.

Don't call him out. He knows what he is doing and the attention is oxygen to him.

Don't reply. Just block him. What an idiot.

You know he has the hide of a rhino and anything you say will make him laugh and pester you more because any response means you want him.

Block him.

Maybe put up a post about idiots with the skin of a rhino first. But block him.

Ignore! He clearly likes you and is trying to get a response like an immature 10 year old. Silence on your end will eat him up and teach him a lesson. Even negative attention is better than no attention for those types of people

Basically, who cares? It's rude whether or not he's deliberately being rude for the purpose of catching your attention. You don't have to call it anything in your response, just explain that you too find him quite annoying and as a consequence would rather date a tarantula. And then the don't contact me again bit.

But yeah, it probably is.

Its crazymaking behaviour and a huge red flag. But dont tell him you can see it for what it is, let him keep doing it so his next intended vvictim has the chance to spot it in the early stages as well. Just block him.

I wouldn’t waste your time responding. It’s just giving him attention he doesn’t deserve. Block and move on.

I used to have a man like this in my life. He wanted attention and to feel like I fancied him, to boost his ego. He would use exactly this kind of opening gambit - flirtatious nonsense about how annoying I was. It wasn’t negging, not as I understand it these days as a calculated manipulation strategy.

He was genuinely attracted to me, but I wasn’t to him, so it was easy for me to brush this kind of crap off, which just made him bait me more. I deleted his number and cut him out, it was the only way.

Fucking hell - what an attention whore he is.

Delete and block.

Do not ever respond to this loser.

Absolutely don't respond. Just block. what a moron

Don't respond.

Just ignore, and if you don't see a way back to the more distant meme-swopping contact, you may as well block

He's one of those men that has never grown up and being rude to you is his way of being flirtatious. Run a mile. He won't change. I came across a 54 year old recently who was still doing this sort of stuff.

There's no argument to be had (that's exactly what hat he wants, some people enjoy that kind of "banter" interaction). Just ignore.

Block and ignore that will wind him up far more

@GiantHaystacks2021

Fucking hell - what an attention whore he is.

Delete and block.

Do not ever respond to this loser.

^This.

He's a prat. Block. Ignore. Forget.

@LuaDipa

I wouldn’t waste your time responding. It’s just giving him attention he doesn’t deserve. Block and move on.

Perfect response.

Don't play his games.

I'm not sure its negging per se, just a clumsy and obnoxious attempt to flirt with you: he obviously gets some sort of kick out of being in some conflict with you. I think in his mind you have a fiery, opposites attract thing going on. He sounds very immature.

I agree that the best approach is to block and ignore. He's trying to reel you in for whatever reason and will interpret any response as a sign you're interested.

So, is it negging?

Sounds like it, but could easily have been a bad chat up line.

As everyone else says: just ignore him.

”So you contacted me out of the blue, to say nasty things to me, but I’m the annoying one?”

Then block.

@SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius

”So you contacted me out of the blue, to say nasty things to me, but I’m the annoying one?”

Then block.

Not sure - seems this could be viewed as verbal foreplay.

'Youre so fanciable'.

"You're not"

Block and enjoy life.