Is this negging or just rude?

[Pastamaus]

I had one date around a year ago with someone who is part of my wider friendship group. I bump into him once or twice a year. I didn't enjoy the date, he asked me to do him a favour (not sexual!) and when I declined he tried to make me feel bad. I turned down the offer of a second date. We are friends on FB and occasionally like/comment on each others posts. I spoke to him at Christmas and he was rude about my choice of radio station and the music I listen to so I excused myself from the conversation.
Last night he messaged to ask how I was. I replied 'Good thanks. You?' to which he replied 'You're quite annoying though. I'm just saying'. I didn't respond.
This morning he has followed that up with 'Only because...' and then 20 mins later 'Youre so fanciable'.
I'm going to call him out on this and ask him not to contact me again. I'm inclined to call it negging in my message but I want to make sure that's correct as I don't want to undermine my argument. So, is it negging?
I've looked it up and I'm still not sure.

Thanks for your comments. The one about preferring to date a tarantula made me snort out loud!
He's 50 btw so yes, very immature.
Think I will just ignore then. I would like to block but unfortunately I'll be seeing him in June at a friend's party and worried that will make it awkward as it may seem a bit dramatic and give him another excuse to be a dick.

He’s 50!? Bloody hell he’s acting like a 12 year old.

What's 'negging'?

50!!!!
What an idiot! Surly he should have learned by now that being rude to woman doesn’t get him very far.

I don’t find things like that flirtatious or sexy at all, I find them the complete opposite!

Don’t reply , then block

50!! I’m sorry I just can’t get over this, at his age too, how embarrassing for himself!

God i wouldn't bother. He's such a dick. You do not need him to make a judgement on your faciabi'ity. Block block block. Toooooo much of a pain in the arse

Do you really need to define it op? Just ignore him.

It’s the middle aged tosser equivalent of pulling your hair in the playground because he fancies you and doesn’t have the emotional capacity to express it.

I’m not sure I could be arsed with someone like that in my life.

Block him. Then, come June, if he mentions it, because he probably will, as he's a loser, you just say something cutting like, "well, we're not really friends, are we?".

Sounds like my toxic ex.
Name’s not Michael is it?

It’s negging AND it’s rude. He’s an absolute arsehole; block him.

Hes a weirdo. Block an forget

@LightSpeeds

What's 'negging'?

It's a 'Red pill' tactic. Saying something negative to a woman they are trying to pull deliberately in order to put her on the back foot. She'll try to defend herself, which gives the person an in to have a conversation, or take her self esteem down a few pegs so that she ends up eager for validation - which the person who begged her can offer.

"For a big girl you're a really good dancer", "you've got a lovely face" to someone overweight, the implication being you've got a nice face but not a nice figure. "I don't usually date X women," nurses, X demographic, blondes whatever, so that you are then proving you are worth a date.

What a horrible sounding man. Ignore, block and for goodness sake don’t feel awkward about it. He is the prick, not you! Maybe prepare a few cutting replies in advance if he says anything to you in June.

Don't reply, just block him. He doesn't deserve a single moment more of your headspace

Wouldn't reply, Wouldnt block either. If you do either it's a reaction but clearly ignoring him and not bothering to block him shows how you just don't care. Which is true right ?

He can’t stand that you aren’t interested. Just don’t respond

It sounds like he just wants an ego boost from you. He might not even be interested. Just wants you to flirt back so he can feel attractive and then go silent again. What a dick.

@Pastamaus

Thanks for your comments. The one about preferring to date a tarantula made me snort out loud! He's 50 btw so yes, very immature. Think I will just ignore then. I would like to block but unfortunately I'll be seeing him in June at a friend's party and worried that will make it awkward as it may seem a bit dramatic and give him another excuse to be a dick.

It's really not your problem or your responsibility to smooth over potential social awkwardness of his making. If he does choose to be a dick that's on him, not you. And if people observe and ask questions you can just tell them he's sent you aggressive and immature messages and you don't want to deal with it.

He really should have thought about this a long time ago.

Don't respond. It's what he wants.

Just block him. It will irritate him far more than answering him in any way.

I would respond who's this ?
Then block and delete

I’d just say “go f*ck yourself weirdo” and then block.

Seriously, just fucking block him and ignore him being dramatic

I think it’s like little boys being mean to girls they fancy in the playground tbh. He fancies you but you don’t feel the same way and that frustrates him.