DSD - is this odd or AIBU

[Iseofskye123]

Am not sure what to think here...DSD is 13, I've been with her dad 18 years and married. Apparently she's always known she was conceived on valentines day (I find this very odd, I mean who tells their children when they had sex??) So for her 13th birthday her mother has changed her birthday certificate to valentine as her middle name. WTF???

This thread is a bit identifying if she tells anybody about the name change.

Yabu. It's none of your business.

@LadyTwinkle

You're posting as if this just happened, but If she was conceived on valentine's Day wouldn't her birthday be in November? I say this as someone who was also conceived on Valentine's day.

We first heard about it a few weeks ago because of paperwork or something, it's only because she is with us now its more talked about.

Yes kids may count back 9 months, but surely most adults know that the birth doesn't automatically happen exactly 9 months after conception? I imagine most people don't know the actual day their children were conceived, unless they only have sex occasionally. I guess most people wouldn't tell their child they had sex three times that week in their bedroom, so it could have been any of those days.

I made the mistake of asking my mum what other names they considered for me. "Shelly, Michelle - for Chelle, Sandy. You know that little beach under the bridge? That's where you were conceived."

Some mums share too much.

@Brainwave89

I think it is a bit gross to discuss conception with your chuildren. Heston Blumenthall once told a journalist he was called Heston as he was conceived in a parking lot inHEston Services (untrue), but on publication his parents were livid.

just love this!!!!!! A friend had the middle name of Frinton as that was where he was conceived

My friend's dd is first name Alice.
After Alice Cooper not the lass from Wonderland!

@Allywill

Isn’t Brooklyn Beckham so called as that’s where he was conceived? So although I wouldn’t do it myself it is not that odd in the sense that others have done similar.

Yes that's right. I remember reading that at the time.

My son would be called Sofa...

I know where and when I was conceived as do my kids
I presume the child wanted the name and connotation ?

I wondered why there were so many kids in my year at school with the middle name 'WetTShirtContest'

I don’t think a child knowing when or where they were conceived is even remotely akin to parents sharing ‘intimate details of their sex lived’ with them. The child is fully aware that they are a result of their parents having sex; knowing which day of the year isn’t ‘an intimate detail’ of that by any stretch.

I think the name change is pretty naff, but ultimately it doesn’t affect you in any way whatsoever, so each to their own.

@Iseofskye123

So where were you conceived?

Odd choice of username

I don't know if anyone else has posted this, it's really pedantic... but its unlikely she was literally 'conceived' on Valentine's day, unless she was tracking ovulation and did a OPK test on that day, and then did a load of fertility math based on due date and pinpointed qctual egg fertilisation to Valentine's day. It's a technicality really, but it can take up to 5 days after sex to literally conceive. So she might have just changed her daughters name to celebrate a day she and her ex husband had sex. Which in my opinion is so absurdly cringeworthy it is actually funny

We were TTC on a trip to Australia and any resulting daughter would definitely have had Adelaide as a middle name

(We drew the line at Sydney though.)

Yeah I think it’s cringeworthy and a bit creepy, not for me.

I think it's okay if it is what DSD wanted. If there is friction between her parents now, maybe she finds it reassuring to have it formally recognised that there was a more loving relationship between her parents when she was conceived.

It's fairly weird and tacky. And as a 13 year old, I would be most bemused if my parent suddenly said, "Oh! I've changed your name!"

But also, surely most people are competent enough mathematicians to work out when they would have been conceived, and have a little ironic grin to themselves if the date falls near to something romantic/significant?