To keep sister away from daughters birthday

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My daughters 6th birthday is in 2 days. I have OCD and covid has been an enormous challenge for me and triggered a lot. Family aware of this. I have sought therapy and am now doing really well.

Throughout the whole pandemic I have been consistent with family, who tend to bend the rules re covid restrictions/isolation or play ignorant. E.g my mum defending her partners multiple ‘social bubbles’ by telling me she doesn’t think he knows what it means. He’s an engineer for crying out loud. I have told family, if you’re having contact with me and my children, just follow the advice/rules before you visit, otherwise do what you like, I’m not here to police them.

Anyway, upcoming daughters birthday. My sister has gone to see her covid positive bf within the last few days, more than once, they don’t live together. Stating ‘the rules have lifted’, well things only changed about 5 minutes ago and the advice is still to isolate it’s just not a legal requirement anymore.

I’m not comfortable with her coming to the house now, and my mum is sending me messages asking if she can. I even said to her before she saw him, I won’t feel comfortable her coming to my house within a few days of seeing him while he’s positive and she did it anyway.

I also have a baby at home. I know my OCD will play a role in how I follow the advice re covid, but I’m literally asking them to just follow the advice before they see us, nothing more. One way I look at it, is if he had flu, would she see him and then come here, where there’s a baby, no.

AIBU to say she can’t come?

Ps I don't have a baby now! My DC are all mostly teens now, but I wouldn't have taken the risk when mine were babies even to expose them unnecessarily to someone carrying heavy flu or any respiratory viruses . Let alone covid. They're fine and tougher now. They shook off covid they caught 3 weeks ago easily.

My eldest (now huge 6footer DS) as a baby /to about 9 yo had multiple ambulances who had to race him in to hospital over the years- very scary- for sudden acute exacerbations -from far milder respiratory viruses -than covid. It's very different when their lungs are small and their immune systems aren't up and running yet.

YANBU at all. I do not have OCD and would definitely not allow a close contact into my home to potentially spread covid to me or my baby. I am of the opinion that there is no going back to 'normal' and burying our head in the sand. I'll choose the level of risk I'm willing to put myself and children at.

We do go out to restaurants, socialise indoors, attend school, etc but we do not knowingly expose ourselves to any diseases or illnesses. Like you said, it's similar to measles, the flu, norovirus etc. I'm not going to spend time with someone who has this or likely has it. She can visit next week.