Apparently Tuna isn’t a suitable food for a primary aged DC (Lighthearted AIBU?)

[TunaIsOk]

This is from ExH after he video called DD (Aged 7, Year 3) and she told him she’d had tuna pasta for tea (her favourite).

His text to me says that he doesn’t think Tuna is the right food to be feeding a primary aged child.

I asked him if he’d looked at the school menu for lunches recently. Tuna Sandwiches and Tuna Jacket potatoes available every day, three times in the 4 week menu there’s some sort of Tuna Pasta Dish available on the hot menu, it’s very popular from what I’ve been told.

DD often opts for the tuna dish if it’s there.

No reply.

But am I being UR to give DD tuna? I know I'm not don't worry!

For context, tonights was fresh from the fish monger this morning but I do use tinned as well. There was also sweetcorn, tomatoes and peppers in it as well as a tomato sauce I make myself.

Ask him to send you the menu of what she will eat when in his care: in advance - every week - must include all snacks - so that you can critique it.

Tempting, but would just encourage his controlling nature I suppose.

How ridiculous. YANBU!

American, but everything you ever needed to know about tuna and Mercury for children with links to studies.

solidstarts.com/foods/tuna/

One portion a week is fine though 😂

[quote CharacterForming]Occasionally, fine, because tinned tuna is made from younger animals which have had less time to build up pollutants. Several times a week for a female child, not ideal.
www.nhs.uk/live-well/eat-well/fish-and-shellfish-nutrition/[/quote]
Um, that's not what the article you linked says @CharacterForming

You clearly didn't read it, as it says tuna doesn't count as oily fish, and that the only people who need to limit consumption (to a whopping 4 cans a week!) are pregnant women.

@PrimoPiatti

I would not feed Tuna to any child. Google it.

Could you give us a clue as to why?

He's a fruit loop.

I regularly gave my children tuna in school packed lunches when they were young. All of them are still around almost 20 years later and seem unscathed.

A 140g tin of Tuna does 4 portions for me and DD, so even I wouldn't be anywhere near the limit for a woman of child bearing age (which I am although I'm not trying to get pregnant)

I did 1 fresh steak between the two of us, I bought 2 but the other will be frozen and used in a few weeks.

I really don't think the amount I'm feeding her or she's eating at school is anything to worry about.

Suggests he ups his Cms and you can buy salmon in future..

Fish is healthy.
Maybe he thought it had things added to it like mayonnaise. I don't like mayonnaise but I wouldn't imagine he'd have a huge problem with it.

@cherish123

Fish is healthy. Maybe he thought it had things added to it like mayonnaise. I don't like mayonnaise but I wouldn't imagine he'd have a huge problem with it.

@cherish123 DD loves Mayo, she would literally live on if allowed!

I avoid it more from the angle that it’s not eco friendly - is your ex a Green Party voter? (There are not many of us unfortunately! )

@Nat3kids

I avoid it more from the angle that it’s not eco friendly - is your ex a Green Party voter? (There are not many of us unfortunately! )

@Nat3kids No idea, I left him nearly 5 years ago and haven't asked him!

Just to clarify, tinned tuna is not considered an oily fish and part of your oily fish intake because the canning process does something to tuna that removes that status (in a way that doesnt occur with tinned salmon so you can eat tinned salmon and still be eating oily fish). Dont ask me how it works though

@DysmalRadius

FDA advice on food for children:

This is a better screenshot:

The FDA is American is it not? Given all the additives in American products (in comparison with their UK counterpart products), I'd take any advice on how much fish to eat with a pinch of salt.

Does he eat Tuna at all? The only people I know who don't want children given any at all are those who hate fish and the children's other parents .

My ex is one of them. It might sound strange, but he treated it like fucking heroin - if he found some in the house he'd bin it. He literally took a whole wild trout my brother had caught and given to me out of the freezer when I was shopping once and chucked it onto the verge so foxes could eat it. And then had a go at me for polluting his house with filth.

He also got on the kids' cases about how disgusting all fish was. As it's apparently not an issue during court proceedings, it was perfectly OK for him to convince two children who liked Salmon, Trout, Cod, smoked fish, Tuna, Sea Bass, prawns, scampi and every other type of seafood they were ever offered that they were allergic to it and it would make them die if it was in the house. There was also some shit about Lavender being deadly poison and that a shoulder of lamb was only fit for the bin because there was a trace of fat in it.

I expect its' because considerable quantities of tuna are still caught using long lines, which kill - in an horrendous way - all kinds of marine life, from turtles to albatrosses. Over-fishing - with a danger of ultimate extincion - has also been a problem.

HOWEVER sustainable tuna is one of conservation's relative success stories.
So long as the tuna is from an MSC certified source, then it's OK. I think it would be perfectly reasonable to ask school dinner suppliers to confirm this - and for us to look for the relevant info on tins purchased in supermarkets.

www.msc.org/media-centre/news-opinion/news/2021/05/02/world-tuna-day-tuna-fishing-shifting-toward-sustainability

However, there is a really worrying degree of double-think going on about foods of all kinds. At school, children get to read admirable books and have lessons about saving the planet, yet are fed in school dinners (and sometimes at home) foods which rather do the opposite.

I'm not blaming anyone. This is not an easy topic. But - IMHO - there needs to be rather more joined up thinking about it.

Obviously, you should have given her fish fingers and chips.

I would avoid tuna too. Heavy metals build up in lipid cells & the body doesn't metabolise them. Animals that eat other animals are at greatest risk because the HM are taken in and stored in the animals fat cells. So as an animal gets older & larger the more mercury (and other toxic heavy metals) is stored in the animals body and the greater the concentration. Due to the increased solubility of HM in salt water the levels are higher in large fish than other animals.

Just because it is on the menu at a school does not mean it is healthy..... Turkey Twizzlers???

@dollymuchymuchness

Obviously, you should have given her fish fingers and chips.

Good grief. Have you actually worked out the nutritional breakdown for fish fingers and chips versus tuna pasta? There’s not much in it.

@TunaIsOk

This is from ExH after he video called DD (Aged 7, Year 3) and she told him she’d had tuna pasta for tea (her favourite).

His text to me says that he doesn’t think Tuna is the right food to be feeding a primary aged child.

I asked him if he’d looked at the school menu for lunches recently. Tuna Sandwiches and Tuna Jacket potatoes available every day, three times in the 4 week menu there’s some sort of Tuna Pasta Dish available on the hot menu, it’s very popular from what I’ve been told.

DD often opts for the tuna dish if it’s there.

No reply.

But am I being UR to give DD tuna? I know I'm not don't worry!

For context, tonights was fresh from the fish monger this morning but I do use tinned as well. There was also sweetcorn, tomatoes and peppers in it as well as a tomato sauce I make myself.

Why even dignify it with an answer.

This idiot is exactly why we have the 👍🏻

@Mundra

You shouldn't have tuna more than twice a week due to the concentrations of heavy metals in the fish- this is even more important for children who are small, and thus have lower safe limits of heavy metals in the bloodstream.

May explain his concern then. I just thought he was being awkward!

He's batshit and I'm glad he's an ex. I was on amazing thread recently about a lidl super deal where a gazillion tins of tuna were 2 pounds 38... would have made his tiny mind explode!

My ex said the kids couldn't catch covid because they both have acid reflux......at least the tuna thing Has SOME basis in reality