Does everyone have a family what's App Group.

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Does everyone have one?
If not have you opted out of it and how do people react if you do etc?

What is your situation re What's App?

My Mum, brother & I have one and I have one with my nieces

No, my family don't have one. Not sure why really - none of us have ever set one up!

DH's family do (him and his parents and his brother - not me ) but I don't think it is very active.

One with my husband and children.

One with all of my siblings (there are a lot of us).

One with my siblings, brothers and sisters in law, nieces and nephews, and some cousins (huge).

Yes. Multiple. All used a lot.

Wider family one with my parent in it which was used a lot until they died. Chat from our days, photos, basically checking up on parent without phoning then. We have tried to get our sole remaining older gen person (my batty aunt) to use it like this but she refuses as she is scared of WhatsApp. End result she knows very little about our lives.

Sibling one mostly for business chat related to parental estate.

Sibling & partners one. Used a lot of exchange news.

We all work off hours and live miles apart. Helps us keep connected.

I have one with my DPs just because sometimes I want to share a photo or ask them both a question. More often than not I just message my Mum directly, but if it's something I think Dad would be interested in I'll pop it on the family chat.

I'm in DH's family group too, but it's only ever used to organise something in particular. If it gets too much (as a number of them don't work and message during my working day) I'll often mute it and catch up later.

We do but it’s only me, DH my sister and her DH and my parents. It’s really only for sharing pictures of the grand children. There isn’t much conversation on it other than ‘cute’ ‘looks fun’ ect.

God no. I can’t think of anything worse to be honest. I can understand convenience if a family is spread it across the miles but the whole concept forcmecjustvmesndctheres no escape from pinging phones. Obligations to respond, question, questions, questions.

*for me just means there’s no escape…”

My parents could no sooner use WhatsApp than fly to the moon.

So no.

@Headnorth I still don't have a smartphone, so your dh wasn't the last person in the UK to get one.

I do with DH, his parents, BIL and SIL and it irritates the hell out of me. Having to hear about MIL's garden and hourly updates on their holiday in France. Not to mention nephews sporting achievements and pictures of fucking artisan bread! I can't leave the group or I'll look like a cow so I just mute the notifications.

No, but my parents don't know how to use WhatsApp!

I don't use WhatsApp. Neither does my family, or DH's family, AFAIAA.

@thegcatsmother

@Headnorth I still don't have a smartphone, so your dh wasn't the last person in the UK to get one.

I guess they could all be in groups behind our backs

Three on DHs side. One with us and ILs, one with ILs and DHs siblings, and one with the lot of them plus cousins, aunts and uncles.
MIL is permanently baffled as to why I've refused to join the latter. The sibling one I have muted.

I've opted out of ours as it was annoying me. I just lied and said I was going on a social media break. I didn't feel like telling the truth would have achieved anything.

@BathshebaAndGabriel

I’m on one with my large paternal family. Cousins, aunts, uncles, cousin’s children. It drives me slightly mad. Competitive one upmanship writ large.

I may have left it several times. Only to be added again by jolly hockey sticks cousin.
My very sensible sister refuses to join.

This was the exact reason I left ours. The one upmanship from Sis in law was just too much.

Yes! With my sister and parents. It's mainly practical for arranging plans/ meals together and I send pics of DD, they send pics of travels, days out. Any good news is shared on the group ☺️
Husband has the same with his family.
MIL and I just message direct occasionally.

We have a couple - mainly because our DF is ill so we let each other know how he's doing and when we are visiting him.

Nope. I don't have WhatsApp; nor does my husband. My parents wouldn't know what WhatsApp is - they have a single brick mobile between them for use in emergencies. My sister might have WhatsApp but she'd be the last person to want to be bothered with constant messaging about family issues. No idea about MIL. And that's the sum total of my family.

We have one for me, husband and daughter and then another with my side of the family - just us, my parents, my brother & his wife.

None for husbands side of the family, although they probably have one but just didn't include us !

Just my siblings. We use it most days, mainly for jokes, funny memes and occasionally running down other family members 😂
No other halves are allowed to join which drives my nosey sil insane as she doesn’t like my brother to do anything that doesn’t involve her. Nosey cow!!!

Yes with my siblings. They refuse to talk about anything on the phone it all has to be done via messages. It's annoying because arranging anything can take days of back and forth messages and then halfway through someone will just disappear and stop replying for 2 days without explanation. Or someone will take something the wrong way especially if it's a sensitive subject. I find it stressful and exhausting and it's ruined my relationship with them really as we don't really have much meaningful contact any more. Perhaps I need to take the hint 😂

Yes. Just siblings and parents. It's very active - family updates, work woes, politics chat all accompanied with funny memes. I'd really miss it actually!