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Original poster

Who gets the treats?

63 replies

Coolcoolcool · 02/03/2022 16:22

Please help settle a marital debate.
I’m currently wfh. Husband is in the office. He gets frustrated when I eat more than my ‘share’ of treats from our cupboard whilst at home e.g. I had more mini eggs out of the tube than he did, or yesterday I finished off a pot of posh yoghurt, when he had only had a little bit. AIBU to think that because I wfh I am going to be eating proportionately more food in the house than he is? He obviously buys lunch when he’s at the office and I don’t lay claim to 50% of that! We share finances equally so it’s not a money thing.
So
YABU - save the treats for a 50:50 allocation
YANBU - he can buy his own mini eggs!

(Probs should be eating less treats in general, but that’s a whole other thread 😂)

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Shoxfordian · 02/03/2022 16:23

How can you be a married couple sharing your lives and complaining over who are the most mini eggs?!

Original poster
Coolcoolcool · 02/03/2022 16:24

@Shoxfordian I know right?!

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Shoxfordian · 02/03/2022 16:25

He sounds very petty

Is he like this about other things?

Findahouse21 · 02/03/2022 16:25

Just buy more if he doesn't have enough

AryaStarkWolf · 02/03/2022 16:25

YANBU that's a pretty petty thing to argue about. Obviously if you're at home all day and he's out all dayyou're going to eat more of the household food. If he doesn't think he's getting enough treats why don't you (you plural) buy extra in the shopping?

JustMeAndThee · 02/03/2022 16:25

@Shoxfordian

How can you be a married couple sharing your lives and complaining over who are the most mini eggs?!
Yeah, this.

Just buy more treats? And keep yours in a lockable box.

Thethreecs · 02/03/2022 16:26

Why can't you both have your own? If I open something like a yoghurt I eat it. I wouldn't leave half for dh. It must get very draining having to portion everything 50/50.

Easterbunnyiswindowshopping · 02/03/2022 16:26

My exh was exactly the same
. Begrudged everyone anything..

TheTurn0fTheScrew · 02/03/2022 16:29

unless money is tight (and I appreciate it is for lots of people) just buy more treats?

I am a bit fat through overindulgence though so perhaps not a good example to follow.

Aroundtheworldin80moves · 02/03/2022 16:29

Suggest you have a separate lunch and coffee budget,like he does, and use it to buy your treats. That he can't touch...

Original poster
Coolcoolcool · 02/03/2022 16:30

We both have our petty moments to be fair 😂

Yes he could buy his own treats, but he would rather rely on me to get them in the weekly shop…

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GlacindaTheTroll · 02/03/2022 16:31

@Shoxfordian

How can you be a married couple sharing your lives and complaining over who are the most mini eggs?!
It sounds a natural state to me!

Yes you get to eat more of the food in the house, by no you shouldn't be nicking the treats

Original poster
Coolcoolcool · 02/03/2022 16:31

@Aroundtheworldin80moves brilliant idea! Although he is an absolute cheap skate so this may backfire…

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SeasonFinale · 02/03/2022 16:33

Are you actually even married if you don't argue who had more mini eggs?

I think the PP suggestion of a your "wfh lunch allowance" is a good idea with wfh food ring-fence.

HumourReplacementTherapy · 02/03/2022 16:33

Blimey this is reminding me if the tantrums my DS's had over who'd got the most cheerios for breakfast and trying to count them to prove each other wrong 🤣🤣🤣

MajorCarolDanvers · 02/03/2022 16:33

These are arguments my children have with each. Not arguments that my husband and I have.

KindlyKanga · 02/03/2022 16:33

Buy extra allocated treats for in the day so your equivalent of his eating lunch out budget

ScreamingSauvignon · 02/03/2022 16:34

Great first world problem.

But like I do with my children, divvy it all up. And very possibly grow up.

Squirrelblanket · 02/03/2022 16:35

We have separate treat stashes. This is more about him not being able to moderate himself though. Grin

Toomanypeople · 02/03/2022 16:36

The mini eggs are all mine and I don't share, if he wants any he will have to buy some and hide them so I don't eat his as well

NorthernWanker · 02/03/2022 16:36

We have this sometime but I'm the one going to work. I'll say dream about eating XYZ when I get home only to find he's eaten it! Just buy extra stuff to divvy up.

Obira · 02/03/2022 16:37

If you’re sharing something that’s in limited supply then it’s greedy to eat more than your share. Just buy more? We would buy two tubes of Mini Eggs and write our names on them.

Original poster
Coolcoolcool · 02/03/2022 16:38

@Obira labelling - I love it!! Next level.

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Fairislefandango · 02/03/2022 16:41

There have been loads of threads about this kind of thing lately - it baffles me that co-habiting adults have this kind of issue tbh. I can't believe some people actually have to ration and allocate food to individual family members! I've never had to do this with my (now teen) dc,never mind my husband. We buy food. People eat it. We buy more. End of story. If there are no crisps left, there are no crisps left - nobody dies (or cares who ate the last packet). Your dh needs to grow up.

gingerhills · 02/03/2022 16:41

Buy more treats and keep some in your desk drawer for working snacks. They are your workday treats and not for sharing with him, just as his lunch is not for sharing with you.

You never need to squabble about this again.

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