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To tell you about my best friend?

91 replies

WeasilyPleased · 02/03/2022 00:15

My best friend died tonight at 7.07pm. She had a hernia operation which left her with a hole in her stomach so had another op. Then she developed an infection so had a third op which we were told she may not survive.
She did and was chatting and laughing with the nurses. Today her family told me she'd taken a turn for the worse and was probably not going to make it. They are amazing people who I love like family and they invited me to go and say goodbye.
She couldn't talk which was eerie because she usually never stopped!
She was a vibrant, feisty eccentric. Bloody minded, fiercely loyal and politically very astute. She stood by me when I had no one else and had to give dh the once over before I'd get serious with him. She swore like a trooper, made me laugh til I cried and was my greatest support.
Strongest woman I've ever met.
I don't know right now how I'll cope without her tbh. That's horribly selfish but I cant think straight. How do I cope with this?
I've promised her girls ( 1 daughter 3 granddaughters) I'll be there for them however they need me. Sorry for the ramble but I loved her and know you would have too if you'd met her.

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NewYearNewMinty · 02/03/2022 12:52

I'm so sorry.

She sounds amazing Flowers

Wilkolampshade · 02/03/2022 13:31

Well done OP. What a beautifully written tribute to an incredible woman. Xxx

NannyOggsWhiskyStash · 02/03/2022 13:36

She sounds like she was a fantastic woman,and so do you. Sending hugs and Flowers

Mumdiva99 · 02/03/2022 13:38

I'm so sorry for your loss.

Mybumlooksbig · 02/03/2022 13:40

I'm so sorry xxx

Honeyroar · 02/03/2022 13:43

So sorry for your loss. I lost my best friend a couple of years ago. I still miss her, but she’s still with me. I think about her and talk to her just about every day. So many songs, movies, memories, places remind me of her. Friendship like that stays with you forever.xx

BitOutOfPractice · 02/03/2022 13:47

Goodness I'm so sorry for your loss OP. It sounds like a huge loss and she sounds like a tremendous woman. Flowers

TyrannosaurusRegina · 02/03/2022 14:01

I'm really sorry for your loss.

Georgieporgie29 · 02/03/2022 14:04

I’m so sorry for your loss Flowers she sounds like a wonderful person

fruitbrewhaha · 02/03/2022 14:17

How sad, she was lucky to have you and you her. I’m sure she was very grateful to have you in her life

Amymamabear89 · 02/03/2022 14:19

So sorry for your loss. Thoughts are with you all 💐
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MischievousBiscuits · 02/03/2022 14:54

Your friend sounds amazing. One of those once in a lifetime friends. Her legacy will live on.
In time, when things don't feel so raw, her daughters and granddaughters will revel in your stories of her and all your escapades together and those stories will live on throughout the generations Flowers

CityMumma78 · 02/03/2022 15:24

I’m so sorry for your loss of your lovely friend, she sounded like a wonderful person ❤️

ProfFloss · 02/03/2022 15:26

I am so sorry for your loss, your friend sounds like a wonderful woman who will leave many happy memories.

singlepringlenotbychoice · 02/03/2022 15:49

Sorry for your loss, your friend sounds amazing. Keep thinking of all the good times you shared Thanks

OliveToboogie · 02/03/2022 16:02

Sorry for your loss. She sounds amazing 🙏🙏 sending you love.

Xpologog · 02/03/2022 16:16

I’m so sorry to hear about your friend.
It’s normal to feel lost, restless, unsettled.
For now it’s one hour at a time. A minute at a time if necessary.
It’s a horrible time, like a rollercoaster of emotions.

The3Ls · 02/03/2022 16:37

I hope I'm am as fondly remembered as she was. What an amazing person you were blessed to have had in your life.

TheFuckingDogs · 02/03/2022 16:40

Oh OP my heart goes out to you, your friend sounds truly amazing.
I also lost one of my best friends way before her time and that was the thing I couldn’t get my head around, how very much alive and there she had been and then wasn’t. Sending much love

ArchieStar · 02/03/2022 16:41

She sounds wonderful and I am sorry for your loss 💖

ImJustNotMeAnymore · 02/03/2022 16:43

I'm so sorry for your loss. Your friend sounds wonderful. Sorry 💐

JuneOsborne · 02/03/2022 16:44

Oh, how sad.

Lovely that you got to say goodbye, what a generous and kind hearted family. No wonder she was so fab.

I hope you hold onto those wonderful memories and they can give you comfort and light at such a sad and dark time.

Flowers
Cocycola · 02/03/2022 16:50

I am very sorry to hear that FlowersFlowers . Sending lots of hugs and prayers for you xxxx

Jibbajabba1 · 02/03/2022 16:53

I am so sorry 💐