Should I msg the girl I think my boyfriend is cheating on with?

[MiMw]

He won’t admit anything I have asked multiple times. since I noticed he added first on insta, something has been off. She likes everything he posts and he is now friends with her on Facebook today. I just want to know the truth? I know people will tell me to just dump him and forget it but i want proof

If your supposition is purely based on the fact that they are Facebook friends and she likes his posts that means nothing and tbh if you confront her based on this you will come off looking unhinged.

If you have other reasons not to trust him then your relationship is effectively over anyway -- there's nothing without trust. You're better off calling time on it now with dignity than stringing this out.

Just dump him and move on. He’s clearly not worth the drama.

As you don't trust him, the relationship isn't going to last anyway. You may as well end it now.

If you don't trust him are you really going to trust her to tell you the truth?

If you message her and she replies and says 'there's nothing going on, just friends', my guess is that you will still continue to have your doubts. From your follow-up comments, you've said that you've been 'warned' and that your boyfriend has lied to avoid seeing you. It's pretty clear that you don't trust him, and I assume there is a reason for that. It doesn't really matter whether he's seeing another girl or not - your relationship with him is not making you happy and for that reason alone, you should walk away.

I’m going against the grain here- I would totally message her! Ask her if she knows he’s in a relationship. If she does, then she’s as much to blame. If she doesn’t, then you’re pre-warning her that he’s a cheat and to stay clear of him!

@SartresSoul thank you, this was why I thought about. Of course I wouldn’t stay with him but I feel if he is playing us both, I would want to know

@Troisfoisfilles exactly. His profile says he is single and I do undertand that as I’m recently out of a marriage so I don’t want to be shouting about things either. He has posted one photo of on Instagram of us and I recently posted on his face book a photo of us for his birthday, but other wise it’s pretty bare. I hate social media now