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To expect that kids wouldn't rifle through my belongings?

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Catnipdelight · 27/02/2022 19:15

Have just had family over for lunch and they brought their kids (ages 2, 6 and 8). Adults were downstairs in kitchen and the kids were entertaining themselves in the living room.

Kids ended up upstairs for hours which I wasn't too overjoyed about but I pushed it to back of my mind as I had cooking to get on with.

They've now left and I've come into our bedroom and contents of DP's bedside table drawers have been emptied out, including a few "personal" items that kids should not be looking at our touching!!

Mortified as I really didn't even think about that happening, surely children should know not to rifle through stuff that doesn't belong to you or am I just naïve? I dread to think what else they were looking at or touching; ugh it's just embarrassing af. I don't even like other adults being in my bedroom really, it's such a personal space, let alone with little people who have no qualms about opening drawers or peering under the bed!

😩🤣😵‍💫

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Crimesean · 27/02/2022 19:23

I'd never let kids play upstairs unsupervised in my home (for the same reason!). I'd have gone up and made them come down, and told their parents upstairs is off-limits.

However, I don't actually know ANY parents who'd allow their DC to play upstairs, out of sight and unsupervised, at someone else's house! They must have incredibly lax parents.

ZigZagIntoTheBlue · 27/02/2022 19:24

Were they playing with your children or on their own? If with your kids then I would expect a family rule to be that no one goes in mum's room during play time - my kids know and understand that one from a young age, and my kids would reinforce it too.
If you don't have children and they were upstairs on their own then I would expect they should've had adult supervision from one of their parents, but you could've reinforced it with a shut bedroom door and listening out for door being opened.

You've learnt for next time! If I were you I would probably pre emptively text your friends and say they were rifling through your 'personal' belongings in case they start talking about what they saw. Could get awkward quickly if its not mentioned by you now, and they bring it up next time they come over, or at nursery or something.

Easterbunnyiswindowshopping · 27/02/2022 19:25

I would be messaging the dps. That's disgusting behaviour..

Iamkmackered1979 · 27/02/2022 19:26

They played upstairs doing god knows what for hours and no one checked or said don’t go in your room. Better supervision required. It’s your house op don’t allow kids up there. And don’t leave them to get on with it without checking they are ok and occupied

HalloHello · 27/02/2022 19:30

You really shouldn't have left them unsupervised upstairs for -hours-! That's a long time! Use your voice OP

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Catnipdelight · 27/02/2022 19:36

I don't have kids myself yet so I guess it didn't really occur to me to stop them, I definitely won't be making that mistake again. I wish I'd shut the bloody door but I always leave it open for the cat.

I did have a brief moment of fear about what they could be doing up here but I didn't really know how to bring it up without it being obvious that I was worried about things like vibrators/lube being discovered.

I am CRINGING!! 😂😩

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londonrach · 27/02/2022 19:37

Why they supervised

ohhooh · 27/02/2022 19:38

100% the parents issue - I hope they get some super awkward questions tonight as payback!!

LittleSnakes · 27/02/2022 19:38

I allow kids to play upstairs in my kids’ bedroom but they know not to go into my room. And never do. Is there a playroom up there or something?

SuperSocks · 27/02/2022 19:38

A 2 year old was left to do its thing without adult supervision?

User405 · 27/02/2022 19:39

I don't understand how they ended up there as you don't have dc. What did you all think they were doing entertainment wise up there?

ThanksItHasPockets · 27/02/2022 19:41

At the very very least you should have shut the door. What did you think they were doing upstairs for all that time?

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Catnipdelight · 27/02/2022 19:44

I was cooking a lot of the time and busy with people coming in and out so I just sort of presumed someone else had an eye on what was going on with the kids... now realise in hindsight that I need to be very clear about where is off limits!

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Pizzadreams · 27/02/2022 19:44

I’m really shocked they left kids this age without supervision for hours, who does that? Didn’t one of you think of popping up, like oh there a two year old and someone should be looking after them?

😱

Friendshipqn · 27/02/2022 19:45

It wasn’t great of the parents to leave them up there. I can’t believe they left a 2 year old unsupervised through your house!

Pretty cheeky of the kids to go rifling, to be honest! An eight year old knows better than that.

Cuddlemuffin · 27/02/2022 19:45

The parents should have been supervising or at least checking on them every 15 mins. The 2yo shouldn't have been left unsupervised at all. It is perfectly fine for you to say to the children or parents, no children in my bedroom please! Lesson learnt for next time 😂

Nelliephant1 · 27/02/2022 19:45

Surely a parent would be upstairs checking on them every now and then. They could have been playing with scissors, medication etc.

Pizzadreams · 27/02/2022 19:46

@Friendshipqn

It wasn’t great of the parents to leave them up there. I can’t believe they left a 2 year old unsupervised through your house!

Pretty cheeky of the kids to go rifling, to be honest! An eight year old knows better than that.

It might not have been the eight year old and a child this age isn’t responsible for the other two.

Who leaves children like this, it’s awful.

Pizzadreams · 27/02/2022 19:47

They could have jumped off the bed and hurt themselves, anything could have happened.

How many people were coming in and out op that you didn’t realise no one was looking after the kids?

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Catnipdelight · 27/02/2022 19:47

I think the parents were probably checking every so often but possibly (hopefully) didn't see the drawer of doom open as it isn't immediately obvious when you enter the room. You have to be quite far into the room to notice it IYSWIM.

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TheOriginalEmu · 27/02/2022 19:48

I wouldn’t cringing, they’re small kids they are just nosey.
If they were mine there’s no way I’d let them alone upstairs for a long time, but there’s no real harm done. Next time just say no kids upstairs.

HeadacheGrey · 27/02/2022 19:49

You don't have DC? So why were they even upstairs? I assumed they'd gone up there with your kids. Weird.

betwixtlives · 27/02/2022 19:54

6 & 8 should know better. At 2, my dc was a terrible rifler

user1471439310 · 27/02/2022 20:11

The parents of those kids should be embarrassed not you. Your an adult, the things were in a drawer not out, and I would let the parents know their kids have no respect for others.

TopSecretSquirrel · 27/02/2022 20:12

This reminds me of the time when we called in at my sister’s house for a coffee. My parents were there too.
My son (who was about 3 at the time) burst into my sister’s living room ready to attack us with a ‘lightsaber’ he’d found in my sister’s bedroom.

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