To expect that kids wouldn't rifle through my belongings?

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Have just had family over for lunch and they brought their kids (ages 2, 6 and 8). Adults were downstairs in kitchen and the kids were entertaining themselves in the living room.

Kids ended up upstairs for hours which I wasn't too overjoyed about but I pushed it to back of my mind as I had cooking to get on with.

They've now left and I've come into our bedroom and contents of DP's bedside table drawers have been emptied out, including a few "personal" items that kids should not be looking at our touching!!

Mortified as I really didn't even think about that happening, surely children should know not to rifle through stuff that doesn't belong to you or am I just naïve? I dread to think what else they were looking at or touching; ugh it's just embarrassing af. I don't even like other adults being in my bedroom really, it's such a personal space, let alone with little people who have no qualms about opening drawers or peering under the bed!

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Don't ever be such a doormat again, in your own home, FGS.

"No playing upstairs!" That's all you had to say. That and insisting these idiots parents watched their children.

This is quite odd because if you don't have children I'd assume there would therefore be no toys for them to play with upstairs so what did any of the adults including you actually think the kids were doing upstairs "for hours"?

Sounds like they did find some toys lol

Next time say, in front of parents, that upstairs is out of bounds.

If my 2 yr old was left unsupervised for hours upstairs in someone's house she would absolutely empty drawers and be in to everything! That's a very long time to leave children unsupervised, particularly in someone else's house. Parents shouldn't have let this happen. I'm surprised nothing worse happened!

Idiotic and rude - I know a 5 yr old who ended up in iTu cos she robbed and ate a load of her GFs epilepsy pills on his bedside table. They were a luscious-looking pink.

The GF said to DIL Serve You Both Right which didn’t help, but he had a point. 5 yr old now very capable adult - parenting upped its game.

I would be embarrassed as a parent if my 6 and 8yo went rifling through someone's drawers. They should know better.

Where on earth were the parents. There is no way I'd let my kids play in someone's master bedroom. I dont allow my kids in my own bedroom.

The 2 older kids should certainly know better than to rummage about in someone's stuff. The 2 year old is a baby. I'd be annoyed and would tell the parents.

Your friends absolutely should not have let their children go and play upstairs alone at all, unless you suggested it. That’s just bad manners. If you had kids and they were all up there, that would have been fine, but it’s not OK for people to let their kids roam around someone else’s house, especially when one is just a toddler.

Regarding the going through drawers, I wouldn’t expect a two-year-old to know any better, but kids aged 6 and 8 should absolutely know not to do that. Terrible behaviour.

Considering you have no kids, so presumably no toys upstairs for these kids to play with, they had no business being upstairs at all. They were obviously very bored but it was up to their parents to supervise them and keep them occupied.