Hi, I’m in a bit of an awkward position. I hate talking about money, try and avoid it wherever possible but I’m really struggling. I have 4 children, my youngest is with my current partner. We all live together in our family home. I’m currently not working as I’m at home looking after my 20month old, but my partner works full time. He contributes towards our household but I’m minus £250 each month after all rent, bills, dinner money, council tax etc are paid. My other Childrens dad pays a bit of maintenance. And I get child tax credits.
My question is, should my current partner pay half of all our rent, council tax and bills etc. Or do I deduct the maintenance I get and then half what’s left for him to pay towards. We’ve been together 7 years and getting married this year, we’ve been living together for 5 years.
My problem is, I feel as I’ve had no choice to stay at home and look after our little one yet I’m the one in financial difficulty. He has about £600 per month leftover after he’s paid his bills etc. I tried discussing this with him the other day and have been so upset and told him I’m worried about money, he won’t tell me where the rest of his money goes and said I should trust him.
I know this is a bit of a waffle but hopefully someone will understand what I mean. Thanks