I’ve always disliked my first name as I felt it was too cutesy for me, and have never felt any connection to my last name as I didn’t have the best relationship with my dad. When I was 22, I decided to change my entire name (brand new first/middle name, made my last name-sounding middle name my last name) via deed poll. That was more than 10 years ago.
Today, DP and I were sorting out some documents and we stumbled upon my birth certificate. We talked about it, all was fine.
Just before bed she confessed that she felt like I had hid things from her, especially with my ‘made up’ last name (she had a brief interest in genealogy but back then she was merely doing her own family tree and it was early on in the relationship). It’s never been a secret it’s just something that hasn’t come up since the last time someone called me it was way back when I was in year 8 or so.
Am I in the wrong here? She doesn’t want to talk about this and has gone to bed but now I can’t sleep.
post edited to remove identifying details, as requested by the OP.