To be worried about my friend going awol?

[HufflepuffPride]

I can’t work out if I’m being ridiculous or not. I haven’t heard from a friend who I usually hear from a couple of times a week for almost a fortnight now. To begin with I just assumed she was busy but her social media hasn’t been updated for nearly a week and whenever I try to call her her phone is switched off. Unfortunately she lives about two hours away from me so it’s not like I can just pop around to see if she is ok.

Im a pretty anxious person and I just can’t shake this feeling that something isn’t right.

I'd be a bit concerned. There may well be a simple explanation, but there could be a problem. Is there someone you know who lives nearer to her that could check on her?

No that’s just it, I don’t really know anyone who lives near her.

Could you message her and day you're really worried about her and that if you don't hear from her in the next 24 hrs you're going to call for a welfare check?

have you contacted any mutual friends or written on her social media

I’m not sure the messages are getting through if her phone is switched off? Would a welfare check be a bit extreme?

Do you know her address?

Have you tried messaging on social media? I dont think a welfare check is extreme in these circumstances

Can you put a message on her Facebook page asking her to contact you - her local friends will see that then and may contact you

Is the drive really too far considering it’s to check on her well-being?

Does she live alone? Would she have other people nearby who would miss her if she didn’t turn up for things?

Have you got mutual friends on Facebook who live near her who you can message or her mum/ dad on Facebook?

Is there someone on social media who lives near her? Doesn't have to be someone you know, just someone she does.

I mean there are several quite innocent explanations. She may be very busy. I know some people just take breaks from SM - although that doesn't explain the phone silence.

Does she live alone? That makes quite a difference. Or if she does live alone, would work/ a partner spot something wrong?

Do you know any of her family

I would drive there if worried

Even if it’s 2 hours away, could you not drive round this weekend and check on her?

Does she live alone? Like someone else said, could you put a message on her FB and someone else might respond.
Hope she’s ok x

She doesn’t live alone. She lives with her DM, but I don’t really know her or how to contact her, The only social media she has is Twitter and Instagram, and she came off Facebook years ago

I do know her address if push comes to shove.

If they've got a landline you might be able to look up that number ?

Have you tried Googling her name? I’m sure it’s very unlikely in your friend’s case but when this happened with my husband’s (now ex) friend, it turned out he’d been sent to prison.

I agree, Google her and her mum, if you know her mum’s name - it could be something has happened to either of them. Or google news stories in the area that describe women without naming them.

I’ve googled her name and also looked for a landline number and nothing.

If you know their postcode the other thing is to look up and see how much they've been affected by storms. There are some places near me still without power.

Can you get in contact with where she works?

I can see why you're worried if this is very out of character, could she have gone on holiday abroad and not have roaming on her phone?

I actually text her last week asking her about how badly affected she was by the storms and heard nothing back. I suppose it’s possible they’ve still not got any power.