To be worried about my friend going awol?

[HufflepuffPride]

I can’t work out if I’m being ridiculous or not. I haven’t heard from a friend who I usually hear from a couple of times a week for almost a fortnight now. To begin with I just assumed she was busy but her social media hasn’t been updated for nearly a week and whenever I try to call her her phone is switched off. Unfortunately she lives about two hours away from me so it’s not like I can just pop around to see if she is ok.

Im a pretty anxious person and I just can’t shake this feeling that something isn’t right.

Is there a Facebook page for her area? Explain that you have a friend who lives there and ask if anyone would be able to check on her. No need to give a name, just ask people local to her to PM you and you can give details privately.

It’s ok. I didn’t even realise you could use what’s app on a laptop so you learn something new everyday!

@BusinessMindThoughts

Is she likely to have a laptop etc that she would otherwise be getting messages/emails etc on? How techy is she? If I had a broken phone I'd be on my laptop sending WhatsApp messages but that's possibly just me...

You have to set it up in advance though, as I learnt to my annoyance when my phone refused to update WhatsApp. I could get a code from WhatsApp to get my messages on another device, but if you can't access it you are stuck!

@HufflepuffPride

It’s ok. I didn’t even realise you could use what’s app on a laptop so you learn something new everyday!

I use WhatsApp Web because I type better on a full aize keyboard.

@BrickingIt44

Can you get in contact with where she works?

I was wondering something similar....if she worked in a public facing role like a shop, could you go there?

She doesn’t work at the moment. So that Her phone is now ringing again but she’s not answering, no answer phone but she’s never had one anyway, so that’s no all that worrying. Still no social media posts though, the football team she supports won today and she’d usually be all over that. A local Facebook page is a good idea, her mum does have an FB and I could find her on that.

I'd find her mum and send her a wee message.

Can you send her a registered tracked letter where a signature is needed for it to be delivered ? You would then know if no one was there.

I’d send her a letter. Either first class or tracked. Just say you’re just checking she’s ok as you’ve not heard from her. Give it a few more days.

I think the letter is a great idea if I don’t hear anything in the next few days. Literally I’d just be happy with a very short text saying she’s ok.

I think either a letter, or a message to her mum on facebook, or even just drive to her house to check she is ok, might work. I know she lives 2 hours away, but it might put your mind at ease.

Could she maybe be depressed and retreated off social media and doesn't want to talk to anyone, hence the no communication. The fact she lives with someone makes me think she is ok, but if this continues you need to know this for sure as you'll start thinking allsorts as time goes on.

Have you checked the local conditions? Can maybe one of us help? We may live close to her and be able to at least tell you what the local conditions are like.

@Cocycola

I think either a letter, or a message to her mum on facebook, or even just drive to her house to check she is ok, might work. I know she lives 2 hours away, but it might put your mind at ease.

Could she maybe be depressed and retreated off social media and doesn't want to talk to anyone, hence the no communication. The fact she lives with someone makes me think she is ok, but if this continues you need to know this for sure as you'll start thinking allsorts as time goes on.

Yes I believe this is very possible. She does get very down for various reasons that I won’t go into on here, and though I don’t think she’s actually harmed herself or anything like that there is always a niggle. I’ve sent another text now saying I hope she’s ok and that I’m hear if she wants to chat. If that continues though I will consider the letter.

@Riv

Have you checked the local conditions? Can maybe one of us help? We may live close to her and be able to at least tell you what the local conditions are like.

She lives in Derbyshire if that helps. Don’t want to say exactly where though for obvious reasons.

I am sure there's nothing to worry about she probably just likes her own space from time to time. And will contact when ready. Some people just like to hide away. And not be noticed.

I wouldn't worry unless you think she's come to harm. Then of course you need to phone the police ASAP

Maybe something has happened, like a bereavement in her family etc. No contact/sm updates doesn't mean something has happened to her.

I hope she's OK and contacts you tomorrow and all is well. She might just want some time out.

Op you sound like a lovely friend being so concerned.

@bruce43mydog

Op you sound like a lovely friend being so concerned.

Thank You.

A little update to say although I can’t get hold of her still, she has retweeted something in the last few hours. She is ok and presumably just doesn’t want to talk, but I’m so relieved!

I'm glad to see this update, OP. I know what it's like having friends I almost only interact with online, and I would also have worried in your situation.