AIBU is Actually Invalidating

[Burgoo]

Hi All,

Fairly new here and have some observations about interactions that happen on the site. Here is my first AIBU! Be gentle with me please!

AIBU for wondering whether it is unhealthy to constantly need to seek reassurance from other people about what is "right"?

BTW this isn't a criticism, its just that I find a lot of people often can't judge what they think/feel as being accurate or not. They have often been told for years that they are "being stupid" or "over-reacting" and therefore don't trust their own experience.

Does AIBU perpetuating the belief that we need to get advice from others to validate our position? Whilst I can see some people want validation and at the same time it stops us being able to self-validate.

Again gentle please! Its just an observation.

Irony? Is that you Alannis?

We all need reassurance at times, but you are right, the more we seek it the less we end up trusting ourselves and the more we feel we need to seek support from others. Advice and reassurance from others should be something we use sometimes, not about everything.

I think the OP needs to look up the meaning of the word irony

Oops didn’t read of the thread. Sorry OP, you were deliberately being ironic. Gosh. You played a trick on us! What a mischievous little scamp you are!