Pregnant after sterilisation aibu to want answers

[TeddyisMydog]

Hmm so maybe this does not belong in aibu but I need answers and I'm not getting enough from anyone else.

Two weeks ago I randomly tested positive on a pregnancy test, undoubtedly obvious positive but I took a CB digital which was negative.
Another first response test done the next day also blazing positive and away I went to the GP. Who referred me for a termination and said I should get the coil

On the 16th I had a private scan done and I was told I had miscarried.
A few hours later I started to bleed.

The bleed lasted 1 day, I didn't take anymore tests until Monday 21st where it shows positive.

Back and forth to get referred to early pregnancy unit for a scan, armed with my pregnancy test from this morning (which they said is too faint to be accurate 🤨)
They scanned me, they can see my womb lining is thick. And guessed a chemical pregnancy or indeed a very very early miscarriage.

They took a blood test for hcg which has come back as 2!!! 2! Why am I getting such strong tests if the result is 2? I asked about speaking to see someone to check internally if my tubes are still tied and was told "we don't do that here" despite the GP saying that's the bare minimum I'd get.

Can anyone throw light on this please? I don't feel safe to have sex atm I'm so confused and it doesn't seem possible to speak to anyone about this! Picture of my test attached

@Darbs76

I think most doctors will ask you that question about losing a child. Especially if someone is sterilised when they have a young baby. It’s right to consider that prospect, as horrible it is to think about unfortunately it is something some couples will face after sterilisation when they think their family is complete

Quite a lot of people change their minds about children, particularly younger people without any kids, which is why they ask. It's an evidence based approach and there are statistics to back it up. And as you say, it's not been uncommon in the past for people to try and get sterilizations reversed in the kind of situation they describe, so it's a sensible thing to ask about.

I rather wish they were more careful with some other procedures too.

So sorry you're going through this, OP. Especially with a three month old. What terrible treatment.

And your previous pregnancies sound extremely traumatic.

In terms of future contraception, get your DH to go back and insist until they agree to do the snip. They can't keep saying no! It's atrocious!

In the meantime, you could try using condoms and spermicide along with the pull out method to be extra safe. From your PPS it seems you're super fertile so probably the best bet is to completely avoid sperm getting anywhere near you.

Or if you're really put off for a while, non-penetrative sex still counts and can be just as great!

Thank you all, looks like I just got to keep pushing for some answers

Definitely will not be having unprotected sex, it is the last thing on my mind right now as I really don't want to have to go through this in a month's time!

My partner is insistent that someone in his Doctor surgery will eventually listen to him so he isn't likely to give up. He has seen my body go through the worst possible stuff, he knows how hard the recovery hit me just a few months ago so he is very keen to be taken seriously.

As I said before I do understand and realise it is a risk but I just didn't expect to be dealing with this at 11 weeks post partum, especially for everyone to shrug their shoulders. Not 1 medical professional has asked me if I am OK, they know I've been diagnosed with depression and it is something that has hit me very hard.

Just for clarification, they aren't worried about an ectopic as 1) they couldn't find any sign of pregnancy outside of my womb and 2) my hcg level is 2.

The first private scan I had done they confirmed a yolk sac with no hb. I bled after leaving the scan and it must have lasted 10 hours. So not even a full day.
NHS scan yesterday they can see the thickness of my womb so they guessed a chemical pregnancy or miscarriage which just hasn't finished yet

It sounds like the sterilisation was on the NHS as part of a planned C section? If so, did they provide consent information and leaflets mentioning the failure rate?

World ask your GP to write to the service about what’s happened and ask for them to do tests. Or if she refuses write yourself via the complaints service.

I had a HSG (scan with dye) done as part of fertility testing, for example, it shows tubes etc.

@Aquamarine1029

Is it possible that you actually weren't pregnant, that this was due to residual hormones from having your baby less than two months ago? Personally, that's what I'm thinking.

I would think the same. If you only had it done 11 weeks ago and that was when you had a c section for your last child id imagine it's from this surely?

@PlopperDoo but that doesn't explain the private scan seeing a yolk sac
I also had a period at the start of Jan and a negative test already
Usually hcg is out of your system by 8 weeks post partum too x

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Thanks for this! I'll just keep my implant for extra measure for a few months.

Hope you get sorted OP.

With a hcg level of 2, that probably should have gone down by now.. Why is this positive? I don't understand 😖

I'm unsure what's happening in regards to the positive test, has the hospital given you a follow up appointment regarding your HCG? I know you said your partner is going to pursue his GP but it would probably be a lot easier if you went private for his vasectomy, have you investigated the cost?

@TeddyisMydog

I have a handful of positive test results, and not be pregnant. They were due to ovarian cysts, that were realising a similar hormone.

Might be worth asking for a scan.

Didn’t read all the replies.
OP, I don’t want to frighten you because there are probably many possible explanations for this phenomenon, but for my sister the reason for her false positive pregnancy test was a malignant tumour. Apparently certain tumours can produce HCG. I hope soon you’ll be able to find out the real reason for it.