Don’t know if I’m being unreasonable here so would like some advice.
Back story is I’ve been with my “boyfriend” for over 15 years, we’re not married but have children and a mortgage.
We used to have a car each but after time couldn’t really afford 2 so went down to one and have been like this for about 4/5 years.
As we’ve been together so long we have both had periods where one has financially sorted the other, give and take and all that.
Recently we’ve had a falling out, we’re not married so neither of us is financially secure without the other, difference is he has family who would financially help him and I have none, I’d just be screwed.
It came to a head last month, his been stringing me along for years about marriage and I didn’t see it, I was blinded by love. I’ve recently woken up to this and feel stupid, as far as I’m concerned we have broken up (but still live together as we have children and a mortgage, he won’t leave, I can’t leave as have nowhere else to go)
I paid £1300 a year ago to fix the car, this was fine as we was together, on the same team as it where and I hadn’t realised he was stringing me along.
He says his never stringed me along, he does want to marry me (it’s been over 15 years though). The car has broken and his asking me how much money i have to help fix the car. I’ve told him I’m not fixing it, it’s his car, not mine and if anything happens to him anyway I’d loose the car as it’s not in my name and we’re not married.
Here’s the dilemma, I use the car all the time as it’s the only one we have and I run the kids about. He also could probably afford to pay for the repairs if he didn’t take me on a expensive weekend away (he never does anything with me or wants to spend time with me, our last night away was over 10 years ago, there is no romance and he makes me feel like part of the furniture and takes me for granted, this was an attempt to try and start to get things back on track, although I’m still not convinced as 1 night away and 3 meals out in 8 years won’t cut it anymore) His basically just been a boyfriend all this time and a shit one at that for the past 3 years.
Should I pay for the car to be fixed? I can afford it, but I just don’t want too, it’s not my car, but don’t know if I’m just being bitchy