Toddler using potty in a restaurant

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Am I being unreasonable to think that it's not acceptable for a toddler from another family to use their potty in the middle of a restaurant?
For context, it was 6pm and a family friendly place, but we were eating our dinner a couple of tables away as were several other couples and families.

That's so gross

Ughh that’s vile! There’s no need for that- a girl in our NCT group changed her babies nappy one in a cafe on a bench seat in front of everyone, rather than going to the (vacant) baby changing facility about 5 feet away. I swear some people do things just for a reaction. Did you say anything?

Disgusting. It’s parents like this which make me dislike having toddlers around!

Personally we used potties for as little as possible to avoid these sorts of problems… 3 weeks max between the two DC and straight onto the toilet.

@DiddyHeck

YANBU. There's a thread on this subject probably once a fortnight and it's never ok.

Yes, I am amazed what a regular occurrence this is. Never acceptable.

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Awful! I’m afraid l’ve seen this happen too. The mother then paraded through the restaurant to empty it.

Hideous! Fortunately I’ve never seen this. Maybe this is one of the reasons people insist on child free weddings 😁

I never took a potty out with mine either when they were that age. Pull ups and supporting them on a real loo is normal right?

YANBU, I had a travel loo seat, DD has been known to have a pee in the car in her potty in the footwell. I think people should be understanding about kids learning things, whether its toilet training or learning to sit in a restaurant but thats just entitled and grim. As PP the child deserves privacy and dignity too. I potty trained DD at 20 months but even then she wanted privacy to pee/poo, she would have been really upset to be sat on a potty infront of loads of people

There’s quite a difference between down a quiet alley way outside and inside in a cafe where people are eating.

Was it a Hungry Horse? Sounds like the sort of thing thst would go on at our local one 🤢

We have a fairly local Hungry Horse. Sticky tables and menus and Ping food a speciality. Slush Puppie with your meal. A potty on the floor would be a definite possibility.

Utterly grim and definitely not acceptable! Take potty in a bag to the toilets and use it there. How vile and that poor child!

Probably the same self entitled idiots who think it's ok to change a baby on a cafe table 🙄 no not ok, take the toddler to the toilet, teach them properly!

It’s disgusting. How would this family feel about a dog having a shit on the floor (in a dog friendly place). It’s really not that different.

YANBU They should just go toilet with the potty . Really unhygienic

Horrible! Same as people that change a baby’s nappy in a plane’s cabin rather than the loo.

This is disgusting but YABVU if you didn’t raise it at the time

Disgusting behaviour from the parents, should have taken the child and the potty to the restaurant loo. I used a potty with both DSs when toilet training, took them to the nearest loo to use it - not difficult!!

@Giraffesandbottoms

This is disgusting but YABVU if you didn’t raise it at the time

I'm not sure that if people think using a potty in a restaurant is acceptable, that they would be the most amenable to people telling them they are vile.

It’s like the parents who change their kids’ nappies on tables - it’s utterly unacceptable.

I have many many dc. Never has a potty left my house.
Email the head office and get a refund.

Its vile.

But I did do it once. Toddler was reliably dry, and in pants, sat having lunch, until she suddenly wasn't so reliably dry, and clearly had out of the blue started wetting herself.

We had 3 choices:

1. let her carry on dripping wee all over the high chair and the floor.
2. grab her and run to the (not close) loos, leaving a trail of wee behind and getting covered ourselves in the process
3. grab the emergency potty we had very close to hand, to catch as much as possible.

Right or wrong, we instinctively chose 3. Grim, but better than a trail of dribbling pee. It was coming out already, the question was whether we tried to catch it in something.

And yes, someone complained. As they probably would have if we had done either of the other options too. Apart from getting our 2yo to stop mid flow, which she couldn't easily do, I don't think there was a way of dealing with that situation that wasn't disgusting.

This wasn't an unreliably dry child either- she'd been fine for a few months (albiet couldn't wait long, which is why we often kept the emergency potty in the pram)

I read this same thread a few weeks ago.
How many grotty people are out there letting their children do this?

Yanbu. That's disgusting. Potty should be used in the toilet