To ask how perimenopause makes you feel

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I feel really flat with it. It’s worse some months but it makes me feel really not myself. Like empty and low - it’s really horrible. I have had one go at HRT but it made me feel rubbish in a different way - headachy and a bit drugged. I maybe need to try something else as that was the gel and my friend said she got on better with the patches.

But this weird sad empty flat feeling is just so horrible! I have other physical symptoms too but it’s the emotional stuff that makes me feel worse at the moment.

I would go back to your doctor and see if they can review the HRT you are on. Good luck. I hope you feel better soon.

Definitely review HRT with GP. They've been life changing for me, no more insomnia, no more joint pain, such a revelation.

@HollyBollyBooBoo which one are you on? I have quite bad joint pain aswell that is making me feel a bit decrepid

Completely flat. Like utter shit to be honest.

@userxx it’s really horrible isn’t it?

[quote Letshaveablackcelebration]@userxx it’s really horrible isn’t it?[/quote]

It really is, I'm hoping better weather will put a spring in my step. My joints are also bad too, I ache a lot of the time. Going to start on the turmeric and see if that helps.

@Letshaveablackcelebration I'm on Evorel HRT patches and have stayed on Zelleta mini pill as I don't believe my periods have stopped.

It's really helped with the joint pain but what I will say is I think a lot of my hip pain is also muscular so have been doing stretching exercises (loads on you tube) and that has also had a massive positive impact.

I have an appointment to see my GP about peri menopause in two weeks.

Symptoms are feeling incredibly irritable and anxious from around day 5 to day 12 of my cycle. This is fairly new and most of what I find online talks about premenstrual syndrome, not the time leading up to ovulation. I also have two days of feeling cranky before my period. That’s well over a third of my cycle feeling bad.

I have also broken out in cystic acne along one side of my face and jaw.

I hate feeling this way. What can I expect from my GP? Is there a test or something? Is there stuff they can do for perimenopause? I have no idea what to expect. I am worried she will throw antidepressants at me. I’m not depressed. It is totally hormonal.

Peri menopause symptoms have been awful for me. Aching, headaches. low mood to name a few. HRT has helped, lots of exercise, eating healthily and cutting out alcohol. I still feel hideous some days but at least I’m trying to do all
I can which gives me a sense of control. Exercise for me is key. Even just a good walk gives me a boost.

@HollyBollyBooBoo Thanks for the tip, I'll look on YouTube. My whole body feels tight at the moment and not in a good way!

I feel invisible.
I'm 48,still having regular periods which are very heavy with large clots (sorry tmi.) Think it's making me anaemic so I've started taking iron whilst on my period.
The anxiety is horrendous.
Joint pains, aching muscles.
Hair is like straw, and skin very dry.
Lots of weight gain.
Vag dryness, sore and itchy.

I had a phone appt with a female gp who said I may have eczema (?) and she's given me cream to wash with. I have a face to face appt with her in a few weeks so will ask about Vagifem then. She said I couldn't be menopausal as I was still having regular periods.
I also have a goitre so need my thyroid levels checking, I do think I may be under active as that would explain a lot of the symptoms.

HRT really helped me. But it took a few goes to get it right.

I’m so glad I saw your message @mangoseason as thought I was going mad. I’m finding day 5-12 the worst also but I’m on the pill and thought it was due to the increase of hormones after having a week of pill onboard.
I’ve got a telephone call with the gp Monday as I’ve had bloods and they are looking for menopause markers. My added complication is b12 and iron deficiencies which my previous GP didn’t act on and I know they can cause low mood also.
My mum has breast cancer history so I know they will be reluctant with the hrt but I would like to keep on the pill for keeping my cycle regular. I have had bouts of long unexplained heavy bleeding in the past also so can’t risk that but the GP is keen on me going on the coil to which I am not.
It’s a minefield and I’m fed up of it already. My mum had completed the menopause by 45 and I’m 43 now so hoping it’s as quick for me.

Dead inside. Not depressed just ground down and hard to find the joy or fun in things.
Constant tiredness
Feeling like I want to run away!

I think I'm perimenopausal too. I'm nearly 42, my periods are all over the places, I had 2 in 3 weeks then nothing for 6 weeks. They're much heavier than before. I'm moody, feel low and sad, get spots, feel achey, bloated, headaches, anxiety is off the charts sometimes and I feel so over whelmed by it. And skin dryness, my hands are like sandpaper, it's so embarrassing! And weight, I lost 3 stone last year and now I've stalled and I look pregnant with my big fat belly!
I have days when I really don't feel like myself. It's so crap!

My mum had early menopause so I think I'm going the same way.

I've no idea if I'm peri menopausal but I've developed the most horrendous anxiety over the last year. Feeling very flat, no joy, don't look forward to anything. Can I ask how old you all are please? I'm only 41.

No different than before.

@pennee, solidarity! My mum had breast cancer too, so I know that will come up in any treatment plan.

@Dembones292, I am 44. Been feeling this way but getting steadily worse since about 41.

Flat is a good way to describe it, yes.

Plus:

No libido;
Really itchy breasts;
Forgetting words (which is embarrassing in my work life, especially when talking to clients at the time);
Joint aches;
Periods that come and go as they please with little consistency in flow / length when they do bother to appear.

I really need t see my GP, but it's getting round to it. I'm 45.

I'm on hrt gel which at least stops me feeling murderous but I have to 'work' a lot more on my mood - no booze, doing yoga, get as much exercise as I can - otherwise it all falls apart. It is very very shit. Like a pp I often want to run away.

Yes, flat - helped a bit by anti-depressants and some herbal tablets called Stay Calm - one a day is usually enough, or 2 if I have/want to be more animated 😆 Already on 100mcg patches and an out of date Mirena.

It's the joint/muscle pain that horrendous for me at the moment. I could literally keep up a monologue - my shin hurts, now my wrists, now my hips, my fingers, my knees, my hands, my feet - it's like someone's got a voodoo doll and is battering it!

Anxiety
Low moods
Joint pain
Headaches
Palpitations
Weight gain
So I've set out to get myself in as good a place as I can with healthy food and exercise and have finally plucked up the courage to speak to my GP after almost a year of struggling and to be fair they've been lovely
I am due back in a couple of weeks to finalise an HRT plan and get started
I cannot go on like this
I want me back

The anxiety is awful. I get anxious about everything. It’s exhausting.

I get the flat feeling. And all the rest.

The palpitations were particularly scary given that my DF has a heart condition.

Can’t take HRT unfortunately.

@NoWordForFluffy yes!! I'd forgotten about the forgetfulness!! Oh the irony!!!

I can be having a conversation and the word I want is just not in my head!! Or looking at something and completely forgetting the name of it..... its a bit awkward when it's your own son 😅 😳