I’ll try and keep this as brief as possible…
My dd was in the same year group as my friend’s dd but they were in different classes (we were friends from when our kids were toddlers). My dear friend has now sadly passed away.
She had a group of mum friends from her child’s class who know I was also her friend and came to her funeral etc. The thing is, whenever I see them around, they totally blank me as if I’ve done something really bad. I just don’t understand it. They don’t really know me at all tbh. I don’t expect them to stop and chat etc but a nod, smile, quick “hello” would be nice. I think I’m generally a nice, friendly person and get in ok with all the other parents from my own child’s class.
With one of them, we did a zoom quiz with others during lockdown and she was perfectly friendly amongst the group but totally ignores me if she sees me in passing.
Our kids are now much older and the only thing I can think of is someone has been spreading negative rumours about me (it wouldn’t have been my friend when she was still alive, she just wasn’t like that). Either that or my DD behaved badly towards their kids at primary school. One of their kids was bullied and picked on (think year scape-goat kind of thing, it was horrible) so maybe she’s just unfriendly with all of the other parents because of that.
It just feels so cruel and bitchy. I’ve lost one of my best friends and they treat me like shit. I honestly don’t know what I’ve done to deserve it.
At my friends funeral, another mum from my own dds class turned up. She was a bit dramatic about it all but meant well. I didn’t invite her and hadn’t even seen her to tell her. They may in some way blame me for this but why would they care? It’s all v strange.