To find storm triggers horrible lockdown memories?

[GrendelsGrandma]

It's only a few hours in with the kids but I've found it really, really difficult.

Aibu to think I have pent-up lockdown rage left over that's been triggered by all this? I'm fine with the kids when we can do something, being shut up indoors with no say about it has made me feel disproportionately gloomy and angry! Anyone else?

@ghostmouse

I do think the ptsd is a bit off though. I’ve been diagnosed with ptsd after my husband died last year, it’s really affected me mentally and physically too, and the flashbacks are horrible and the panic attacks which in turn has affected my heart

@ghostmouse I never said PTSD personally, I used the word triggered which I guess is associated with PTSD but I meant it to mean prompted, led to.

I'm really sorry to hear about your husband. It must have been horrible for you.

However I also don't think it's very useful to say an experience isn't bad enough to be called traumatic, people experience things in different ways.

Well put @GrendelsGrandma 🙌

PTSD was mooted in the first reply. Just because a person goes through a traumatic event does not mean they have PTSD. Like a PP said PTSD is bandied about these days like OCD by people with routines or tidying fetishes.

@CakeRabbit

Having mental health problems is not the same thing as ptsd.

To have ptsd you have to have flashbacks, nightmares, hallucinations, tremors, seizures. It's a disability. It's like saying "I'm a bit ocd" when you like things to be tidy.

You don't have to have those symptoms to have PTSD. Experiences and symptoms vary in severity.

You can also have a traumatic experience without experiencing PTSD. More info on Trauma here.

This article from the BBC about mass trauma relating to Covid-19 is worth a read.

Extract below:

Trauma is a far subtler concept than many of us realise. It isn't just a word for something extremely stressful. It doesn't always come from short, sharp shocks like car accidents, terrorist attacks, or firefights. And, trauma isn't the same thing as post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD). What trauma is about is events and their effect on the mind. But what separates it from something merely stressful is how we relate to these events on a deep level of belief.

In the first lockdown, DH had to isolate away from home so he could be with his terminally ill mum. My DC used to cry as they wanted him to come home but knew when he did it would be because their beloved nana had died.

DH also lost most of the business he'd spent 10 years building up.

FIL wasnt able to come to his DW's funeral. He died soon after without us being able to visit him in his care home.

My DM had to isolate on her own after being recently widowed.

I might not have PTSD or been in a war zone but hate the patronising attitude that lockdown was just sitting on sofas and baking banana bread. It's definitely left me with anxiety and trauma to some degree.

@MrsDeaconClaybourne

In the first lockdown, DH had to isolate away from home so he could be with his terminally ill mum. My DC used to cry as they wanted him to come home but knew when he did it would be because their beloved nana had died.

DH also lost most of the business he'd spent 10 years building up.

FIL wasnt able to come to his DW's funeral. He died soon after without us being able to visit him in his care home.

My DM had to isolate on her own after being recently widowed.

I might not have PTSD or been in a war zone but hate the patronising attitude that lockdown was just sitting on sofas and baking banana bread. It's definitely left me with anxiety and trauma to some degree.

I am so sorry you had to go through all of this in such a short period of time.

I didn’t lose any loved ones during the pandemic but my friend’s mum died of cancer during the first lockdown. She couldn’t do all of the things she had planned knowing her illness was terminal. She couldn’t have friends to visit in her final weeks. She didn’t have the send off she deserved. Covid lockdowns have caused so much damage!

Thanks Being were all pretty much OK considering. I just get cross at the minimising of what was, for many, an incredibly traumatic and distressing time.

@ThatsNotMyGolem

PTSD? Really? From staying at home?

My brother has PTSD from being shot at by the Taliban.

Please don’t ever think of going into counselling or any therapy job. Each person has unique feelings and experiences that effect them. What one person feels is traumatic for them might not be for you. And as for you brother who knows if that even true hey