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To find storm triggers horrible lockdown memories?

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GrendelsGrandma · 18/02/2022 14:59

It's only a few hours in with the kids but I've found it really, really difficult.

Aibu to think I have pent-up lockdown rage left over that's been triggered by all this? I'm fine with the kids when we can do something, being shut up indoors with no say about it has made me feel disproportionately gloomy and angry! Anyone else?

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Comedycook · 18/02/2022 17:25

I have two DC. One was always happy to stay at home...she'd keep herself busy for hours with her toys, books, colouring. My other DC would be bouncing off the walls. I think I probably took him to the park every day for the best part of a decade... whatever the weather.

TheUsualShitshow · 18/02/2022 17:25

@ThatsNotMyGolem

PTSD? Really? From staying at home?

My brother has PTSD from being shot at by the Taliban.

Since then there's been a global pandemic which has seen millions of people consigned to their homes by law, for weeks on end.

You don't think that might result in some people developing mental health problems?

CakeRabbit · 18/02/2022 17:39

Having mental health problems is not the same thing as ptsd.

To have ptsd you have to have flashbacks, nightmares, hallucinations, tremors, seizures. It's a disability. It's like saying "I'm a bit ocd" when you like things to be tidy.

Mascia · 18/02/2022 17:39

I find it quite cosy (unlike the lockdowns), but I also definitely know what you mean.
Interestingly one of our kids who's year 6 at school wasn't thrilled at all about the extra day off. I think his teacher was planning fun activities with the kids on the last day before holiday, but I also felt like him having to do schoolwork at home reminded him of homeschooling during lockdown.
He really likes his school, but he didn't enjoy today.

PurpleDaisies · 18/02/2022 17:43

For me this storm has been a harder day. I coped with lockdown by going out walking all the time. Being actually stuck in the house has been worse.

ghostmouse · 18/02/2022 17:54

I’m not personally, but then my youngest are 11 and 14 and love staying in the house in this weather.
Both do activities non the week and at weekends and they are enjoying doing nothing l. Xbox on, I’m watching Netflix and crocheting and we are all cosied up in pjs.
However I do get why people are having lockdown memory vibes, I think it’s understandable given the events of the last 2 years

ghostmouse · 18/02/2022 17:58

I do think the ptsd is a bit off though. I’ve been diagnosed with ptsd after my husband died last year, it’s really affected me mentally and physically too, and the flashbacks are horrible and the panic attacks which in turn has affected my heart

Cissyandflora · 18/02/2022 18:00

When we had lockdowns people were allowed to leave the house everyday though. It wasn’t like a prison situation. You could go out for exercise every day and go shopping.

christinarossetti19 · 18/02/2022 18:01

@ghostmouse

I do think the ptsd is a bit off though. I’ve been diagnosed with ptsd after my husband died last year, it’s really affected me mentally and physically too, and the flashbacks are horrible and the panic attacks which in turn has affected my heart
OP did amend her description to 'I wouldn't call it PTSD, maybe a bit of residual trauma' in a subsequent post, which is probably more accurate.
Cissyandflora · 18/02/2022 18:02

@ghostmouse

I do think the ptsd is a bit off though. I’ve been diagnosed with ptsd after my husband died last year, it’s really affected me mentally and physically too, and the flashbacks are horrible and the panic attacks which in turn has affected my heart
And this I understand. This is trauma. I’m sorry you’re dealing with this. Staying home eating and watching tv is not on the same level. At all. I’ve suffered multiple traumas. Being asked to stay home for safety is not traumatic.
MarshaBradyo · 18/02/2022 18:04

How can anyone say with certainty how other people should feel about lockdown?

And if those memories might come back in similar situations

TheUsualShitshow · 18/02/2022 18:04

Not for you @Cissyandflora

Within three weeks of the first lockdown my eldest has developed severe Tourette's and was carving swear words into her bedroom wall. She was 9, and I'd never heard her swear before in my life.

God save me from posters who want to quibble about terminology when it was really quite clear what the OP was getting at.

drpet49 · 18/02/2022 18:07

* I do find it a bit odd that people on MN seem to struggle to stay indoors with their kids even for one day, I’ve noticed it a lot on here irl I don’t know anyone that insists taking their kids out every single day.*

^This. Only on Mumsnet

VelvetChairGirl · 18/02/2022 18:08

I like being indoors and lockdown didnt bother me and I didnt leave the flat for 7 months.

if you want to go out and play chicken with falling trees thats upto you, but I dont get your problem with being indoors.

MarshaBradyo · 18/02/2022 18:09

@drpet49

* I do find it a bit odd that people on MN seem to struggle to stay indoors with their kids even for one day, I’ve noticed it a lot on here irl I don’t know anyone that insists taking their kids out every single day.*

^This. Only on Mumsnet

I wouldn't say that I know loads who are pretty active with dc
TheOrigRights · 18/02/2022 18:11

Yes! I was juggling WFH with reluctant home learner and that did bring back lock down woes.
It's easier now there's no power (though I recognise power cuts bring many challenges to others) as we've hunkered down with our head torches. The power bank will charge my phone later.

TheUsualShitshow · 18/02/2022 18:11

I wonder if people with very young kids use MN most prolifically, and those are the ages where it's hardest to keep them amused indoors?

Tibtab · 18/02/2022 18:11

Toddler’s nursery rang yesterday and said they were shut today. Usually have a quiet day with my 14 week old and I look forward to having a break from my toddler for a day (and she loves nursery so everyone wins). Instead it’s another day of my toddler ignoring everything I tell her not to do and stopping her injuring herself.

She has already broken me. I even took het out for a walk in the stroller in the wind and hail just to have her stop whinging at me for an hour.

BobbinHood · 18/02/2022 18:12

@drpet49

* I do find it a bit odd that people on MN seem to struggle to stay indoors with their kids even for one day, I’ve noticed it a lot on here irl I don’t know anyone that insists taking their kids out every single day.*

^This. Only on Mumsnet

I know loads of people who take their kids out every day. But I know loads of people with small children. If my friends all had solo compliant 9 year olds it would probably be different.

It seems an odd thing to be criticised for. Fresh air and exercise? So shocking to want that for your children.

speakingofart · 18/02/2022 18:14

I’m so glad this isn’t just me.

ShinyHappyPeephole · 18/02/2022 18:15

@ACNHlife

I actually enjoy being indoors with my kids a lot more since lockdown. But then in lockdown I ditched the hand wringing qnd pearl clutching about screens and devices and just accepted there are some days when it's ok to spend 8 hours in your PJ'S watching cartoons.
100% this!!
CorrBlimeyGG · 18/02/2022 18:16

Could be worse, at least we've not got Boris Johnson gurning at us through the TV.

Notlostjustexploring · 18/02/2022 18:26

I don't like when a thread that was clearly started for a little bit of moral support turns into those of us who struggled during lockdown being castigated for a lack of moral fibre. Or are told we are pathetic for struggling.

For what it is worth, my fairly visceral reaction to today took me completely by surprise. I had a horrible lockdown and it completely rinsed my physical and mental health, but I thought I was over that and it was in the past. I typically love a chilled out day indoors, so the nausea and the panic and the tears that have been threatening to overwhelm me all day took me completely by surprise. Never mind, I'll just chalk it up to clearly being a bit pathetic and unable to cope indoors for just a day...

Seriously...if people are feeling a bit down or weird or crappy about today, don't kick them when they are down. It's a bit mean.

ElliotGoss · 18/02/2022 18:54

I cannot stand staying at home. I've always felt claustrophobic inside for a full day. I took DD out every day in sub arctic temperatures every day in Jan/Feb last year just to get out. My mental health falls apart if not.

Littlebird42 · 18/02/2022 19:20

OMG I thought it was just me! Been feeling anxious all day and cold pinpoint it.