My driving instructor has a very negative attitude towards me. Whenever I make a mistake, she berates me, raises her voice and says things like "where's your brain?" She's never quiet for even a moment - even when nothing is happening she will constantly repeat things like "look near, look far, check mirrors, check signs", etc. She has told me that she doesn't give positive feedback, because if she says nothing, that means I'm doing it right. She also makes me second-guess myself, for example, sometimes after I've done something she will ask "was that the right thing to do?/the right time to go?" and when I ask if I did something wrong she says no! Why question my judgement when it's correct?
All this is making me really nervous and I turn into a bundle of nerves, which leads me to make more mistakes. However, almost everyone I speak to says they had the same experience. Are all driving instructors like this? Is it because I'm 35+ and not used to being treated like a naughty teenager? Surely there must be driving instructors who treat their learners with respect and kindness?