For transparency, this isn’t me. I’m happily married. It’s a friend’s situation. I have been asked for advice.
Friend is called A. Man is called B.
Friend met A at a new job in July. B immediately was all over her and it was mutual.
It moved very quickly. B was pretty much homeless and living with a friend. He ended up staying with A and it became an every day thing so he practically moved in between July and September. He also asked A for money regularly for takeaways (refused to eat the food she’d had in the house) and once asked her to give him the money to pay for his child support for his child who he doesn’t see.
He essentially rinsed A dry. Suddenly one day B went to work (on A’s day off) and then sent A a message saying he wanted to stay at his friends that night but not to worry because it was only due to having a bad shift. A was upset. The next day B didn’t show up to work and blocked her on everything. He’d quit his job with no notice.
A was devastated. Literally a couple of days later she found he was loved up with some other woman he’d met (they work in a bar, other woman was a customer) and had moved in with her and her child. He appears to have moved in with her the night they met! A decided not to do anything.
Christmas Eve B turns up on A’s door clearly having been kicked out by A. He begged to move back in and when she said no he begged for money. She told him where to go.
Today A has said that she’s seen on social media that B is engaged to the woman, and they’ve been engaged since Christmas Day! It would appear they rowed on Christmas Eve so he tried to come back to A, A has told him where to go, so he realised he needs to go back to the other woman or face being homelessness. So that’s clearly why he proposed.
A wants to message the woman and tell her everything but she’s worried he will retaliate and show up at her door and she also doesn’t know how the woman will react. She also doesn’t know whether it’s her place.
Thoughts?