We are expecting our third baby and this time I am leaning more towards wanting to find out the sex of the baby after having two suprise babys.
With our first, I leant more towards finding out, but my husband felt very strongly about having a surprise. I normally am the decision maker in our marriage, and I felt it was only fair to let him make the decision as he always let's me get my way and it was something he felt very strongly about.
Come second baby, I was happy to go along with another surprise, but at the 20 week scan I definitely saw male genitals. I told my husband this and he was a bit dismissive of me and told me to forget it and not ruin the surprise. I know what I saw and it felt bothersome having it hang over me the rest of the pregnancy.
With neither birth I had an overwhelming feeling of 'oh this is amazing only just finding out in the moment!'. It felt like a bit of an anticlimax for me. With my daughter i was f**cked on drugs and can't remember feeling any emotion and with my son it felt underwhelming as I knew from what I saw at the scan....
Now, I am leaning more to finding out. I've done the surprise and it wasn't a life changing amazing moment. We have a 5 Yr old who is very sensitive and a 3 Yr old and I think it would help them both to know the sex so they can adjust and prepare.
I thought I could book a private scan for us and the kids, and then we could do something like going shopping for the new baby. That seems really special to me- its a moment I would love to share with my children.
My husband, however, is against it. In fact, he has gone as far as saying 'you find out but don't tell me!' He goes OTT with everything and says he believes its wrong for people to find out and we shouldn't have the choice....
So, AIBU for wanting to find the sex out when my husband is so passionately against it?