Am I being really ungrateful

[Relationship]

Going through a really hard time at the moment and feeling really rubbish chronic condition only making this worse. I buy myself a bunch of roses every other week from as a treat partner never buys me any and always make a big deal about them being for Valentine’s or birthdays only. I always use the local lovely florist we walk past and have used my best friends flowers for other occasions like Mother’s Day He knows this. I also really love cards and have kept every single card he’s ever got me in a box. So this morning he hinted that something was turning up for me later and it’s a tiny bunch of flowers from a random company with 3 roses and a load of other filler flowers no 2 the same so all very random. They came pre done in a vase so he’s clearly paid more for that than the flowers and no card at all. Im trying to be positive but he made such a big deal about what he has got me and this big surprise I really feel awful for the way I feel as he’s such a loving partner.

If it makes you feel any better OP my DP has just walked in with one single rose I wouldn’t have minded so much if I’d hadn’t anticipated a bouquet and got rid of the wilting lilies I had on display to make room for it 😂

YABU and ungrateful. And need to get a grip.

What did you get him, @Relationship? Was he pleased?

Yabu, he tried and you sound so ungrateful.

He has made it up to you. What did you buy for him, Rosezilla?

@Relationship

No; you're not being unreasonable at all.

This is what I call someone putting in minimum effort for maximum returns.

This could range from making a shit cup of coffee ("but at least the poor love tried!") to selecting a pre-arranged bunch of flowers from a catalogue pic ("at least the poor love tried!")

And women are expected to have very low benchmarks when it comes to this sort of behaviour and be very grateful for shit that is often ill-thought out, hastily assembled, at minimum cost, or done by someone else

I also don’t see rhe other flowers as fillers. But I guess you really really like roses and not other flowers. Maybe he doesn’t understand that is how you feel about anything other than a rose, plus as you always get roses he likely thinks this is something a bit different for you.

At least you got some. I think mine are still sitting in a bucket at the petrol station! 😬😂