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Noisy DIY?

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Rabbitheadlights · 13/02/2022 10:09

Is it acceptable at 10am on a Sunday morning? Don't have the best relationship with next door so don't know if I'm being unreasonable but it seems ridiculous to me that someone would be hammering the walls at 10 am on a Sunday morning?! OH also works nights though I know this isn't their problem.

What do you think?

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DiddyHeck · 13/02/2022 11:20

@Inspectorslack

It’s one day if the week I can get a lie in. My life is structured that way due to Sunday trading rules.

Hence I like to be able to lie on if I can

And for many it's the one day of the week they can do DIY.
Inspectorslack · 13/02/2022 11:22

@DiddyHeck I haven’t said I’d have a problem with DIY? I just said I thought after about 10 was fair enough on a Sunday and about 9 on a Saturday?

DiddyHeck · 13/02/2022 11:26

@Inspectorslack yes I know.

Inspectorslack · 13/02/2022 11:28

So why did you quote me?

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Rabbitheadlights · 13/02/2022 11:32

I think personal judgement and common courtesy should come into play here somewhere. For example I know my neighbours work pattern is standard 9-5 and my OH works nights. Thus gives me a much more limited scope for DIY than most I can probably consider between 3-6 mon-fri and after lunch safe times so as not to disturb the neighbours when they just get in from work or on their only lie in of the week. Obviously a lot of people only think of themselves.

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SD1978 · 13/02/2022 11:42

Sorry, 10am is more than reasonable to start DIY, and the fact your husband works nights is inconsequential- would you have an issue with them starting as they are allowed at 8am during the week because of his shifts? The fact you are limited in what you do in your own house to facilitate his sleep, doesn't mean the rest of the work is....and I say that as a permanent nightshift worker of the last 10 years. 10am is a sleep in for the vast majority, and those of us who have to work nights just have to work out ways to cope when the day time noise is on!

DiddyHeck · 13/02/2022 11:44

@Inspectorslack

So why did you quote me?
To say that Sunday is the one day some people can do DIY Confused
Inspectorslack · 13/02/2022 11:45

But I know that. It’s also the one day some people can have a lie in so after 10 am is reasonable?

I never said people shouldn’t do DIY on a Sunday ?

DiddyHeck · 13/02/2022 11:46

@Rabbitheadlights

I think personal judgement and common courtesy should come into play here somewhere. For example I know my neighbours work pattern is standard 9-5 and my OH works nights. Thus gives me a much more limited scope for DIY than most I can probably consider between 3-6 mon-fri and after lunch safe times so as not to disturb the neighbours when they just get in from work or on their only lie in of the week. Obviously a lot of people only think of themselves.
Night working aside (because as you rightly pointed out that's no-one else's problem), do you really think 10am isn't a lie in?
lucylucyapplejuicy · 13/02/2022 11:47

I'd say it's fine! To be fair my DH works 6 days a week and sometimes Sunday is the only day we have to get diy and jobs done. 10am seems reasonable

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Rabbitheadlights · 13/02/2022 11:51

@Sd1977 but surely you make allowances based on people's circumstances? It's just polite? No? I wouldn't do DIY at 8pm although it's allowed because I know it would disturb them?

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Rabbitheadlights · 13/02/2022 11:51

Apologies @sd1978

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watchtheglitterdustswirl · 13/02/2022 11:51

I hate hate hate any neighbour noise but 10am on a Sunday is fine. I mean it's not fine, it's very annoying whatever time it happens but really there is absolutely nothing you can do and it'd be unreasonable to ask them to stop.

Teeturtle · 13/02/2022 11:53

@Rabbitheadlights

Happy to accept I'm being unreasonable. I just wouldn't dream of making such noise before lunchtime on a Sunday.
Lunchtime? Most people manage to get up and about before lunchtime. Of course it is not unreasonable, many people only have the weekend to do DIY.
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Rabbitheadlights · 13/02/2022 11:58

@diddyheck I wouldn't know a lie in if it smacked me in the face I've not slept past 6 am for years! It's not just about lie ins it's about people being able to have some peace and quiet.

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Rabbitheadlights · 13/02/2022 12:01

@teeturtle and many people only have 8-11pm mon -fri does that mean they should do it?

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Lou98 · 13/02/2022 12:03

@Rabbitheadlights

I think personal judgement and common courtesy should come into play here somewhere. For example I know my neighbours work pattern is standard 9-5 and my OH works nights. Thus gives me a much more limited scope for DIY than most I can probably consider between 3-6 mon-fri and after lunch safe times so as not to disturb the neighbours when they just get in from work or on their only lie in of the week. Obviously a lot of people only think of themselves.

Sorry but the not starting until 10am is the common curtesy. You'd have a point if they were doing work at 8 even 9am but they've waited until 10, it really isn't that early and I say that as someone who hates getting up early in the morning and will sleep in as late as my Son lets me.

Saying some people don't think of others because they're using a hammer at 10 is ridiculous and awfully precious.
It isn't their fault your Husband works nights. I've done nightshifts before as has my partner, it's just part of it knowing that people go about their normal lives during the day. Get him earplugs and sound proof your house a bit better if it's really that big a deal.

Also, just because your kids aren't as noisy as hammering a wall, doesn't mean that the noise is any less annoying to others. I have a Son myself and a second on the way but it isn't worse for you to listen to noise because it's louder, noise is noise, both are disturbing

woodhill · 13/02/2022 12:04

Yanbu it is a bit much, our new neighbours are noisy too so you have my sympathy

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Rabbitheadlights · 13/02/2022 12:06

I would just like to point out I already accepted further up the thread that by most people's understanding I am unreasonable. Let's just hope they are as accomodating when I am making similar noise at 8pm.

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DiddyHeck · 13/02/2022 12:55

[quote Rabbitheadlights]@diddyheck I wouldn't know a lie in if it smacked me in the face I've not slept past 6 am for years! It's not just about lie ins it's about people being able to have some peace and quiet.[/quote]
It's not just about lie ins it's about people being able to have some peace and quiet.

So why even mention the time then if the issue is that you want peace and quiet?? Are you saying they should never disturb your peace by doing DIY at any time? Or are you more likely to want peace and quiet because it's 10am?

This is confusing.

LucieLemon · 13/02/2022 13:30

@Rabbitheadlights

I would just like to point out I already accepted further up the thread that by most people's understanding I am unreasonable. Let's just hope they are as accomodating when I am making similar noise at 8pm.
Not that accepting if you are already planning your retaliation 😆
Halfarsedjingler · 13/02/2022 13:36

Think yourself lucky, our new neighbours seem to think power tools in the garden at 11pm is acceptable Confused

girlmom21 · 13/02/2022 13:46

10am is perfectly reasonable on a Sunday.
If they had workmen in it'd likely be 8am on a weekday so I hope you enjoyed your lie in Wink

SD1978 · 13/02/2022 20:19

@Rabbitheadlights - not in the circumstances you're describing- they have already given you that consideration- they haven't started making any noise until 10am which is a pretty decent sleep in for anyone. The idea of 10am being early, I think you're pretty alone on that one. Most see that as mid morning, and a decent time of day to be up and doing things.

SD1978 · 13/02/2022 20:21

And you making noise at 8pm, they are just as reasonable then to be making noise at 8am- you're stretching out what is reasonable, because it suits your argument. Personally, I'd like to do things at 2am, as I do nights, but I accomodate the vast majority, and don't (obviously) you have a smaller window to do things because of your husbands shifts, I get that. But your definition of reasonable- lunchtime, and then 8pm, spite, you're really not looking great with it.