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Is sending an anonymous valentines card quite creepy?

36 replies

LakesandSnow · 13/02/2022 10:02

I've never actually had an anonymous valentines day gift or present but I thought they are supposed to be anonymous..? Surely that's quite creepy?! I would be wondering who had sent it and second guessing everyone and feeling paranoid.
Has anyone here received an anonymous one? AIBU?!

OP posts:
Myrightbigtoe · 13/02/2022 10:40

When I was a little girl I got a valentine's card through the post. I asked my parents who it was from and they told me the postman. Technically correct but we had the same postman for years and he creeped me the heck out. I imagine my parents thought it would be cute to send...

Sparticuscaticus · 13/02/2022 10:58

Not at all
As teenagers all the anonymous valentine cards from someone who fancied you was fantastic.

My parents always sent me an anonymous card too ( a fairly plain not soppy one). I did the same to my DCs until they were 17, so they had at least one to chatter about with their friends . They (DCs) get quite a few, most are anonymous, when they have a bf or gf they sign them. As an adult often got one from my partner and sent one, big hints obvious who from. But not so much now I'm very much older ...

RedCandyApple · 13/02/2022 11:00

No never had one sent anonymous

Lovemydoggie · 13/02/2022 11:01

That was the whole point of Valentine’s Day when I was younger and it was never considered creepy .

sirfredfredgeorge · 13/02/2022 11:06

As teenagers all the anonymous valentine cards from someone who fancied you was fantastic

I think you misunderstand the meaning of anonymous.

Fairyliz · 13/02/2022 11:07

I suppose like everything in life it depends.
As a teenager I got one from a boy I fancied and so when I found out who had sent it, I was really pleased.
In my 20’s one was left on my desk from a man who worked down the corridor. He also included a letter which made it clear he had been watching me and work. Nothing horrible just along the lines of you look lovely in that blue top. However that creeped me out as I barely knew who he was and I certainly didn’t fancy him.
Gave my work colleagues a good laugh though, I was teased for weeks.

ImInStealthMode · 13/02/2022 11:08

Yes! When I was about 13 I got an anonymous card and it took ages to work out who it was from.

(Turns out it was a male friend. Nothing romantic ever came of it but we are still firm friends nearly 25 years later).

Like a PP the whole point of Valentines back then was to declare your secret love / desire / crush to the object of it, usually anonymously. Definitely not creepy.

MrsDThomas · 13/02/2022 11:26

When you’re a teen, valentines is just that. Bit of fun.

Nowadays people will find a way to turn it into a creepy, offending occasion.

Mamamia7962 · 13/02/2022 11:30

That used to be the whole point of valentine's Day, sending and receiving anonymous cards. Nothing creepy, just a bit of fun.

SoupDragon · 13/02/2022 12:20

When you’re a teen, valentines is just that. Bit of fun.

I found it hideous and depressing.

However, I agree that it isn't creepy at all. I imagine the thought that someone likes you is wonderful. I remember getting one at work once and I felt great until someone confessed it was a joke.

Thethreecs · 13/02/2022 12:33

Oh I loved the anonymous valentine cards when younger, we'd go into school showing off how many we got. The night before myself and my friends would go around the boys houses posting cards to them. Everyone did it. I'd be hovering around the front door dying to see if there was any left in the porch. It was all a bit of fun, nothing creepy about it at all. As an adult I didn't send or receive anonymous cards, was usually going out with someone so just exchanged them. The world is changing so much so fast that my eyes are constantly rolled at how easily people are offended or uptight.

Canaloha · 13/02/2022 12:35

I didn't find it creepy at school, but if I had one posted to my home address and genuinely had no clue then yes I'd be a bit weirded out by it.

Funkyslippers · 13/02/2022 12:37

Maybe a little bit creepy as an adult but as a teenager I got 2 on separate occasions and was thrilled but also found it infuriating that I never found out who they were from! I reckon it was my mum on both occasions to cheer me up

GerundTheBehemoth · 13/02/2022 13:02

I once received an anonymous card when I was a teen. Never found out who it was from, so the whole thing seemed a little pointless!

BearOfEasttown · 13/02/2022 13:04

It is a bit. YANBU.

Letsallscreamatthesistene · 13/02/2022 13:05

As an adult id think VERY creepy. When I was approx 25 I got an anon valentines card hand delivered to where I was living at the time, and a box containing 3 thongs from La Senza. I never ever found out who they were from. Shudder.

StrawberryFever · 13/02/2022 13:14

I think it depends on the context. At school, card left in your locker or somewhere similarly public, fun.

As an adult, card received to your home/work address. Creepy. I've not received anonymous cards as an adult but I have received anonymous texts (from someone who knew my name so not just random/ incorrect number) and found that creepy.

MinnieJackson · 13/02/2022 13:39

Yeah I had one when I was an adult left under the door at work. I felt really paranoid. Also, imagine of you had a jealous/ abusive partner, it could put people in danger really.

RandomMess · 13/02/2022 13:49

I got sent one as a teenager and it really upset me tbh

VeryQuaintIrene · 13/02/2022 14:21

When I was a student I had a huge crush on my philosophy tutor and sent her an anonymous card. Rather sweetly, she had it on her mantlepiece the next time I went for a tutorial! But I'd have died of mortification if she had known who sent it...

Mo1911 · 13/02/2022 14:22

Valentines cards are supposed to be anonymous even if you know who they're from they should be signed with a ❓

cultkid · 13/02/2022 14:23

I loved it!! So much fun and so exciting
The world is going crackers

stuntbubbles · 13/02/2022 14:25

Totally creepy. Any other day of the year you wouldn’t want anonymous “romantic” or sexualised post from someone knowing your home address. Gives me the heebie-jeebies.

MistyFrequencies · 13/02/2022 14:27

I got one once. Was working in a hospital and it was signed Dr-who-admires-you. I was soooo creeped out. Couldn't look any Dr in the eyes for weeks.
I think anonymous is creepy. Man/woman up and say who you are.

ABCeasyasdohrayme · 13/02/2022 14:28

I've had a few and it is creepy. About 3 years ago I had a chocolate hamper with a poem sent to my workplace.

A couple of years before that it was roses to my address where I had only lived a few months after being in a refuge.

I also had one as a teen sent to my home address that was very graphic in nature and resulted in a beating from my mother and stepfather, although I now suspect it was from my stepfather.

I don't like the anonymity at all.

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