Wedding ideas

[Moonflower12]

AIBU in thinking this is a good idea? Would you like to attend? What else haven't I thought of?

Both my DP and I have been married before. We have adult children separately and a DD together.

We were thinking we would get married in the Register Office. Would it matter to you if you didn't attend? We were thinking of just going ourselves with the staff as witnesses.

Then a couple of days later having a party. We have a tiny house BUT access to acres of land and a large garden. Our plan was to have a pig roast and salads etc. We would provide this. And other dishes in case of vegetarians.
Then ask people to bring their own booze in lieu of presents? Is this acceptable?
We would have a marquee - not a posh one - in case of rain.
And we would have portaloos a bit away in a field.
If people wish to camp they could.
Or there are holiday let's and a couple of hotels within 2 miles. A major tourist area.

Does this sound good or awful?

Sounds fine to me, I’d attend.

However, I’d swap the pig roast for a BBQ.

If it were my party I'd put a festival spin on it and have a complimentary food and ice cream van. I'd also get a local pub band in and make it more like a mini camping wedding celebration. If you're encouraging people to camp, then what about showers alongside the portaloos?

It sounds ok, other than the asking people to bring drinks. I think you need to be providing the drinks as part of hosting. Wine/Prosecco, beer and soft drinks is fine. You’ll need to give a bit of thought to glassware. I’d hire it it from somewhere like majestic and employ a couple of people to be in charge of the drinks station - refilling glasses, clearing away bottles, empty glasses etc.

@LottyD32

I wouldn't bother going if the wedding had already happened. I don't get why people do this.

How joyless

I don't understand why people object to BYOB. DH is a wine enthusiast and would far rather bring something he knows he will enjoy than something the hosts have bought from Aldi at £4 a bottle.

I guess it is the non wine drinkers who would object.

Sounds lovely! This is also our plan! Registry office with my Mum & Dad as witnesses. Our reg office doesnt offer a witness service so I would ask yours. With a party for family at the weekend! Our children Will be at school when we actually get married. I mean theyre not going to miss a 15 min ceremony in a reg office are they! No stress! Just a celebration of our marriage. Been together 18 years!! We cant wait.

I just haven't been to a BYOB party since I was a student ... obviously I would take a bottle of wine as a gift but if I host a party I expect to provide the drinks and food. The trouble with taking your 'own' bottle to a party is that you can hardly clutch it all evening ... surely the norm is to place it on the table and then you just have to drink whatever is open ... even if it is is the Aldi £4 bottle .......

How about a fish and chip van, instead of BBQ? Safer if young children are around

Agree with PP, you should provide drinks

Definitely plastic glasses, for safety

Lots of outdoor fairy lights

Include your children in the wedding ceremony

Friends of mine invited people out to dinner. When we arrived, we learned that they had got married

@Beachbabe1

Sounds lovely! This is also our plan! Registry office with my Mum & Dad as witnesses. Our reg office doesnt offer a witness service so I would ask yours. With a party for family at the weekend! Our children Will be at school when we actually get married. I mean theyre not going to miss a 15 min ceremony in a reg office are they! No stress! Just a celebration of our marriage. Been together 18 years!! We cant wait.

@Beachbabe1

Sounds lovely, although I would include your children. When they're older, they may feel they missed out by not attending the marriage ceremony

We went to a do just like this and it was fab. They had a blessing type moment led by one of their best friends so it felt very 'weddingy' even though they'd been married for a few days.

Buffet meal, champagne watching the sunset over the fields, dancing in the marquee. It was so relaxed and a lot of fun ❤️

They also hired some soft play kit for the younger kids which went down really well!

Sounds lovely but I wouldn’t do the fire pit. Summer so hopefully not needed and also I’d be worried about young children near it.

They have been asked and they dont mind. Like I said a 15 min ceremony is hardly exciting!!

Update: We had a lovely relaxed wedding.
We had a barbecue with pulled pork and smoked lamb. There were vegetarian options too- a posh macaroni cheese and pizzas. The veggies were all teenagers so these were their suggestions.
We had trestle tables with linen tablecloths and lots of salads and sides. People had brought their own booze but we also provided some beer and some fizz. Everyone said it was easier than a gift to provide their booze.

Our son in law had made us a playlist with songs that meant something to us plus requests from all the guests.

Our friends lent us a classic car for transport.

It was so sunny nobody used the tent- a mess tent borrowed from the local Cubs. We had decorated it with lights and flowers and bunting.

The 'cake' was lots of homemade cupcakes on a cake stand.

My dress was from Next as was DD's. And my flowers were from Aldi!

We ordered petals from the internet as confetti.

All in all a lovely day for well under £1000.

We had planned an evening fire if it got chilly but it didn't.

The children are all aged 9+ so entertained themselves walking around the harvested fields and playing in our woods.

That sounds lovely, congratulations xx
Sounds like a perfect wedding

@feckingknackered
Thank you 😊 x

Sounds really lovely, but I would invite your parents and children to the registry office and have a meal afterwards.