Spelling my DS name

[FootrotDog]

My DS is nearly 6.
He is irritated with people mispronouncing his name (there's a kid a couple of years older in school with the same name but he goes by the mispronunciation).
DS has argued with me for about the past 8 months on how to spell his name!!
He wants to spell it slightly differently to reflect how it should be said.
I much prefer the "correct" spelling.
AIBU to insist he spells his name correctly?
YABU: It doesn't matter, let him do it if it makes him happy
YANBU: Of course you should insist he spells it properly.

Interesting how one or two people
are trying to paint this as the school's responsibility to fix.

Apologies - in case someone has addressed this earlier in the thread - but if Xavier is on his birth certificate, this issue is going to follow him around even if you allow the spelling change now.

It will need to be spelled as per his birth certificate on his exam entries for GCSE, A levels, etc, on his passport, etc.

@VickyEadieofThigh

Apologies - in case someone has addressed this earlier in the thread - but if Xavier is on his birth certificate, this issue is going to follow him around even if you allow the spelling change now.

It will need to be spelled as per his birth certificate on his exam entries for GCSE, A levels, etc, on his passport, etc.

And I see they have addressed it earlier!

Where did you get the pronunciation you are using from?

Just curious

Obviously your spelling and pronunciation is far better (and strictly speaking the original pronunciation) and it's a beautiful name

Really baffled by this! I can't figure out how this is the original pronunciation at all. The 'ay' sound doesn't even exist in Spanish...

@VickyEadieofThigh

Apologies - in case someone has addressed this earlier in the thread - but if Xavier is on his birth certificate, this issue is going to follow him around even if you allow the spelling change now.

It will need to be spelled as per his birth certificate on his exam entries for GCSE, A levels, etc, on his passport, etc.

Yes, that was another reason I felt reluctant.

I came away from the thread yesterday thinking that I'd let him spell it the way he wants right now, given its years to go until exams. There were a few posters who said how much it meant to them being able to choose this for themselves.

If it really means that much to him in a few years time still I thought I could the go through the painful process of changing legal documents, sigh.

But now the voting results are much less disproportionate now!

@CallmeHendricks

Interesting how one or two people are trying to paint this as the school's responsibility to fix.

Honestly, I really don't blame the school at all. It's a pretty small school so they're just used to older Xavier.

My MIL also can't even pronounce it how we choose! Somehow, somehow she inexplicably says uks-say-vee-ur.

Who's called him the wrong name? Is it the teachers or pupils? If it's a small school, surely it's not that much effort to get everyone saying it properly without needing to change the spelling.

Teaching assistants, other students and after school care workers are the ones who get it wrong @TigerLilyTail. Him altering the spelling therefore probably won't make much of a difference.
His actual teacher is aware and is very good at making sure she says it correctly.

My daughter was in a class with 2 Xaviers! That was 12 years ago! Both mothers were French, didn't know each other before.

Xavier is not a Spanish name, not spelt like that. It's French with the X pronounced as gggzzz. One of the boys went by Xav, pronounced Zav. As far as I remember, it never caused them any issues.

It's a lovely name.

Plenty of Xaviers in Spain! Probably Catalan, strictly speaking. Still wouldn't be pronounced like the OP pronounces it in France either. The first a would always be an ah sound rather than an ay sound.

I think it is kind of a school problem if there are staff getting it wrong. He's only 6 and names are important. Kids will pick up stuff from the teaching staff. Have you tried speaking with the school that it's upsetting him when staff get his name wrong? I know you don't want to be that parent but it's a starting point.

I mean it's easier to speak to the school than change the spelling. I work with kids and there's no excuse for staff getting his name wrong all the time. It's not that hard to remember if it's a small school.