First off I know I’ll get lambasted for not already being married. But DP and I both come from broken homes with awful examples of married couples. So, DP and I have 2 kids together. Very happy. Mortgage, joint bank accounts, and so on. But we’re not married. We were watching The Crown the other eve and for some reason it brought us round to whether we would/should get married. We both agree that if we did we wouldn’t want anyone to know, we’d want to be married on paper for legal/financial reasons but wouldn’t want a big white wedding or even our families there. Does this sound mad? I love my partner, I see him as my forever person and I feel like we should be married. Has anyone been married and done this? Or would it be better if we stayed unmarried? TIA