Bin wars - who's in the wrong?

[Recyclingbinbo]

Lighthearted

DH had a box delivered containing some items for a household repair. The delivery arrived over a week ago and he opened it, then left the box with all the contents and packaging inside by the front door.
We've had a lot of deliveries lately and I was taking all the boxes downstairs, after they had accumulated by the front door for a few days. (We live in flats with no lift so going down to the recycling bins tends to get put off even though it makes the job harder).
Anyway, as you've probably guessed, I appear to have mistakenly picked up DH's delivery and taken that down to the recycling as well.
Who is in the wrong?
YANBU - DH should not have left his item by the front door in its packaging for over a week. The cost of replacing the contents should be split (about £40 each).
YABU - You should have checked the box first before disposing of it and should pay to replace the contents yourself.

As my DH is an opener of parcels then leaves them lying at his arse for the next indefinite period then I'm with you. Its fucking annoying and stuff like this can happen. I would say it will teach him to tidy up after himself and be more careful with his things but I doubt it.
Mine is always buying tiny specialist batteries for stuff and it would v easy for me to throw it out so I have to live with the parcel detritus.

PMSL at Mumsnet - OP posts with a question involving responsibility and gets a whole load of unasked for admonitions for not flattening boxes, and told that she's a "horrible neighbour". Anyone who has had horrible neighbours would regard intact cardboard boxes as the least of the problems.

OP, you are both twits - him for leaving his stuff in the recycling pile and you for not checking (I have done the same myself, so can hardly criticise).

I think the financial quibbling is batshit, though. 50:50 and no shared finances is the root of many marital evils. If you had shared money, there wouldn't be this to-ing and fro-ing, and you'd both shrug and say "shit happens" and move on.

@macon you do realise you have totally contradicted yourself.

You don’t break down the boxes to allow for more space in the recycling bin? Yes yabu

If you’re going to bin something you should check, no? For recycling we unfold and flatten all our boxes…do you just shove them in?

OP I just want to say I don't always fold my cardboard boxes either. I just thought I'd take some of the flak from the recycling police ... who have obviously never lived in flats with the giant industrial recycling bins where it's perfectly fine to throw in full size boxes

The dh put the box where the other boxes go for recycling.
The dh made the order which resulted in the box.
The dh should have flattened the box.

OP is unreasonable generally for jot flattening boxes to go into the recycling, but that's a side point to this. This particular box was not hers, nor her responsibility to flatten. She collected it from the agreed space for recycling and recycled jt

If you broke the boxes down you would've realised. So YA Both U

@LittleOwl153

The fact that there isnt a third option of DH pays for the replacement as he left them in a stupid place says something to me about the state of your marriage/finances...

And for leaving his mess/rubbish in the way for 7 days and not doing anything about it (or rather waiting for the OP to sort it out for him)!

Ha, something similar happened to us last last week - I had a pair of shoes to send back (not in a box, they were wrapped loosely in the mailing bag they arrived in).

Weirdly they didn't have a packing slip so I set them aside until I could call the store. So we couldn't fall over them, I tucked them to the side of my dressing table, resting on top of the wastepaper bin.

DH emptied the small bins - which he NEVER does, it's one of my jobs - and in doing so, chucked my brand new shoes in the outside bin.

He got annoyed with me for leaving them in such a stupid place (probably because he then felt obliged to retrieve the package from the household waste bin).

All's well that ends well and I'll get my refund, but I'm a tit apparently. Fair dos.

I know I should break up the boxes but I can never be arsed so I just force and squash them into the bins.

For that reason alone YABU. Everyone knows you should flatten cardboard for recycling.

[quote Wheelz46]@macon you do realise you have totally contradicted yourself.[/quote]
Well, obviously.

It's MN.