Bin wars - who's in the wrong?

[Recyclingbinbo]

Lighthearted

DH had a box delivered containing some items for a household repair. The delivery arrived over a week ago and he opened it, then left the box with all the contents and packaging inside by the front door.
We've had a lot of deliveries lately and I was taking all the boxes downstairs, after they had accumulated by the front door for a few days. (We live in flats with no lift so going down to the recycling bins tends to get put off even though it makes the job harder).
Anyway, as you've probably guessed, I appear to have mistakenly picked up DH's delivery and taken that down to the recycling as well.
Who is in the wrong?
YANBU - DH should not have left his item by the front door in its packaging for over a week. The cost of replacing the contents should be split (about £40 each).
YABU - You should have checked the box first before disposing of it and should pay to replace the contents yourself.

YABU for not squashing the boxes alone

i can’t understand how you missed that the box contained £80 worth of stuff, unless it was a very small shallow box and the contents were tiny

You can’t understand that price and weight are not equal?

@Ragwort

I can't bear the nitpicking over who pays for what etc you constantly read on Mumsnet, presumably you are happy to share a bed and share children with this man so why quibble over this? I got a parking fine this week, totally my fault, it was paid out of joint money. End of.

Your presumption is wrong! But this is a lighthearted thread... Anyway, for whatever reason, splitting the money is what we do, you might not be able to 'bear it' but luckily you don't have to!

I think you were both pretty silly tbh.
And yes, you should be flattening boxes!

Yes, I have to agree with pp saying that it's your fault. Only because the boxes need to be flattened, someone have to do it, so creating extra work for those collecting, and if you did, you would have realised.

Is the front door where you also leave parcels that you haven't packed away yet? Because if so then you're to blame.

tbh I think you're to blame anyway because you obviously didn't check the boxes and I think the person collecting them and taking them out, should do a final check to make sure there's no paperwork left in, nothing has fallen in by accident etc.

All for the recycling are collapsed, if not I check them. Expensive contents should have been found a home and not left lying around, daft arse.
I don't take stuff out to the recycling bin daily, we have a bin indoors for it all and empty once full (we have different ideas of what full is 🤨).

Both of you are in the wrong.
He shouldn't be leaving stuff outside the front door for a week. Neither of you should be allowing boxes to accumulate outside the front door in presumably a common area in a corridor or stairwell if it's a block of flats.
And you should flatten boxes.

You'd not get away with any of that in the block I live in. Anything in stairwells and common areas has to be moved immediately - fire hazard - and we have house management on our backs straightaway about it.
Boxes have to be taken to the local tip and have to be flattened.

I know it's a complete pain in the arse when you live in a small flat and have to deal with packaging and boxes but leaving stuff outside the door for several days is not the solution. There needs to be a system in place, no matter how tired and exhausted and busy you are - and I get it, I really do. Because the fucking recycling where I live (in another country) is a massive pain in the arse.

@LittleOwl153

The fact that there isnt a third option of DH pays for the replacement as he left them in a stupid place says something to me about the state of your marriage/finances...

Hahaha spot on

Nobody is particularly in the wrong. You are both tired stressed and busy and both doing your best. Just split the cost 50 50 and move on.

It would be different if he’d left it there to sit in front of the TV doing nothing all week, but he clearly left it there as he was busy.

@FairyPrincess123

Our Hermes delivery driver solves this problem by cutting out the middle man. Puts the box in our recycling bin then neglects to put a card through the door telling us.

😯 😂🤣🤣

You threw away a delivery, you’re at fault. Doesn’t matter that it was an accident, you didn’t mean to, you’re at fault. So you should replace the item in question for your housemate.

@Daisydoesnt

*You can’t be arsed to break up cardboard boxes? It takes a minute.

And you leave this all outside?

You’re a horrible neighbour*

This!

Are you struggling with comprehension @Daisydoesnt ? Why does putting cardboard in the recycling bin make you a horrible neighbour?

I find it bizarre that everyone on this thread is, in typical MN fashion, looking to criticise the OP over something that's not an issue (flattening boxes)

But no one thinks her partner leaving half opened packages lying around in the hallway for a week is an issue

Bonkers

[quote Recyclingbinbo]@SolasAnla the recycling didnt build up for 7 days, the delivery sat there for that long. Then we had a few deliveries over the last couple of days that were put next to it.[/quote]
Clearly the Recycling was definitly there a week ago!!

If it was not you would not have put all the recycling down into the bin....
🤷🏼‍♀️

Your husband may argue otherwise but he 100% left stuff there for recycling...

@haismfh

Both of you are in the wrong. He shouldn't be leaving stuff outside the front door for a week. Neither of you should be allowing boxes to accumulate outside the front door in presumably a common area in a corridor or stairwell if it's a block of flats. And you should flatten boxes.

You'd not get away with any of that in the block I live in. Anything in stairwells and common areas has to be moved immediately - fire hazard - and we have house management on our backs straightaway about it.
Boxes have to be taken to the local tip and have to be flattened.

I know it's a complete pain in the arse when you live in a small flat and have to deal with packaging and boxes but leaving stuff outside the door for several days is not the solution. There needs to be a system in place, no matter how tired and exhausted and busy you are - and I get it, I really do. Because the fucking recycling where I live (in another country) is a massive pain in the arse.

We dont leave anything in the common area I'm not sure where that impression came from. We leave them in our own corridor, by the front door. It's all within our own flat.

@EmpressCixi

You threw away a delivery, you’re at fault. Doesn’t matter that it was an accident, you didn’t mean to, you’re at fault. So you should replace the item in question for your housemate.

Housemate! Our relationship isn't great but let's not get carried away 🤣

Do you need to warn him not to leave his birth certificate on top of the shredder?

I'm with @LittleOwl153 on the third option.

Mainly though: lesson learned, change the system.

My mistake on missing he is your husband. However, I would admit fault and replace for only a housemate in this situation, so surely you would do as much for a husband you supposedly care more about?

I have a place for the recycling and it's already empty when I put it there. But we sometimes do have some stuff accumulate by the door and if it is a mix then I do check. But also to ensure that it is all recyclable.

Not voting either dh is in the wrong and should bear the full cost even if you are 50 50

Your DH should pay for it himself for his stupidity.

You are married with dc and split money. You have bigger issues that recycling a delivery.

*than

Maybe you just both need to be tidier.