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Follow up a re social media and bf

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mi5gonewrong · 08/02/2022 10:20

I posted some months ago about my bf having exes and some other women on social media that I felt was inappropriate.
He didn't interact with them , as in messages but still liked their posts now and again.
I got opinions saying that I was controlling to him being completely in the wrong.

We spoke and he deleted his exes from one sm that he is on regularly and said he deleted/ off loaded the other profile on a different platform.
He hasn't interacted whatsoever on either since.
The deleted/ offloaded profile is still visible to me as happens when an app is off loaded but he has not deleted any of the women/ exes.
He says that he will go back on the offloaded sm platform when he has time to give to sorting out his profile ( he has thousands of friends on there)
He is telling the truth about all of the above but I feel that in view of it being a dealbreaker for me , AIBU to think he should have just deleted those' friends' after we had out talk about it all ?

OP posts:
Mintlegs · 08/02/2022 12:56

I wouldn’t be comfortable with hime liking ex’s posts unless I was friends with them also. Obviously not a popular opinion but my honest opinion! They are ex’s for a reason, may be the one might remain friends with him. If they are in sexy poses, a defo no from me. Tell him how it makes you feel. Work on your self esteem as do I

Itloggedmeoutagain · 08/02/2022 13:08

Suffocated just reading that!
So you check who he is friends with?
How do you even notice if he likes someone's post?
How does it affect your life in any way?

mi5gonewrong · 08/02/2022 13:08

No I said that I got 50/50 responses in my
Last post

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whynotwhatknot · 08/02/2022 13:11

Youre not stopping him going to a stag do unless you can go aswell are you?

grapewine · 08/02/2022 13:12

If I were him, I'd be deleting you from my social media and life. No way would I accept being controlled in this manner.

MichelleScarn · 08/02/2022 13:14

Have you handed him your phone so he can delete anyone who he doesn't want you to have any form of contact with?

MichelleScarn · 08/02/2022 13:15

Grin telephoning restaurants to alter bookings?...

Fusillage · 08/02/2022 13:29

This is your third or fourth time of posting this. Your demand for him to conform to what you want is relentless and really quite unpleasant to see.

gamerchick · 08/02/2022 13:33

@mi5gonewrong

Thanks for previous responses.I find it so strange that not one person thinks it's not ok to be interacting with exes and other women. I got vastly different replies in term of a mixture of reactions the last time I posted this. Thanks for the time taken to post.
I don't think you did. You maybe got a smattering here and there but the majority was telling you that you were controlling and you can't do that. You only took notice of the ones you wanted to I think.
MermaidEyes · 08/02/2022 13:35

WTAF?!!

wanders off to delete 3 ex boyfriends off Facebook.....

MermaidEyes · 08/02/2022 13:41

@Lennybenny

I have friends I haven't seen in 10 years but I still like the posts. I don't interact with 95% of my friends on sm because it's there to connect us online not irl.

Methinks you'll be posting about being an ex gf soon.

This!! I have old school friends I haven't seen in 30 years, but I still 'like' the posts because that's what you do!

SheldonesqueTheBstard · 08/02/2022 13:41

He liked something? That is it?

He might like some freedom more.

I would.

EishetChayil · 08/02/2022 13:43

Do you have nothing better to occupy yourself with?

Bintymcbintface · 08/02/2022 14:42

Do you have exes on yours? Men you "don't interact with"? ffs grow up. I'd be gone the second anyone went through my friends list and questioned why they were there. Absolute nut case

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