Me and my mum are very close in that I know I can tell her anything and she'll always come through for me, but we're very different people but both... strong willed shall we say, and we clash fairly often - we always make up before the day is over, though. Genuinely never had a disagreement that wasn't resolved by the end of the day.
I had a baby recently and my mum was amazing as soon as he was born, and helped me so much when I was having a hard time after coming home from the hospital.
However, now I'm doing okay I feel like she's uninterested in talking to me when she comes to see me, and is purely there to see my baby. I think that's understandable to an extent, but I wonder if it's affecting my attitude towards the following.
She kept play-talking to my baby saying things like "oh did your mummy do that? Did she really! Oh she's horrid isn't she" and I just found it sooo unbelievably uncomfortable! Eventually I told her to pack it in and fair enough she's not done that specific thing again.
Then the other day she was talking to him again saying about how she's going to give him lots of chocolate when he's older "and we'll keep it a secret from mummy". Again, I just found this so odd. I've not ever expressed an opinion to her about my child eating sweets and indeed I don't have much of an opinion, except for that I don't often eat that kind of thing myself except for special occasions so I imagine I will raise my child similarly. Also, what I find odd is that my mum actually did specially and very strictly raise me not eating anything unhealthy so I don't understand where this is coming from.
I didn't say anything about the chocolate thing, but I told myself I would if she did it again. But I can't help but wonder, am I just being unnecessarily touchy as a first time mother? Is this normal grandparent behaviour? It's not a huge deal as like I say, we do always make up and if I tell her firmly to pack something in she generally does, but she will also forgive me when I'm being daft.