I don’t trust my boyfriend

[MiMw]

Please can someone advise me. I have such a gut feeling not too trust him but no proof. Tonight he went on a hen do, which really bothered me but he has alot of female friends. I looked at his instagram and he has added a girl he clearly meet tonight who is stunning. He has liked her most recent photo of a bloody puppy. He hates dogs. How to say something without sounding mental and I now this probably makes me sound it, but it’s how he makes me feel. Always a reason for every thing that happens but it never sits right. Help me

He hasn't invited you and all the other stuff because he likes feeling powerful by making you question yourself and hang on for him. That's the game for him.

Asking why you arent invited plays into his power. Fuck that.

Can I ask how old you both are?

Just caught up with the new context and updates, I can now understand the ops, perspectives more,

All the best op,

Thank you everyone for taking the time to reply, I have been on here and asked but I just needed outside opinions. I think what I will do is tell him exactly how I feel, because I need to get it all of my chest. Your all right I need to end it, I wish it didn’t hurt. I don’t normally go around stalking peoples instagram and Facebook, I realise this is unhealthy hence why I’m reaching out for support. So thank you all xx

40

We both have children and live an hour apart. So seeing each other regularly has been a challenge.

Good luck ending it. (I actually wouldn't get it all off your chest. Just end it and walk away......if you tell him your doubts you will just inflate his ego. And still feel no better.)

@DorothyZbornakIsAQueen

So you got together and he lied about dumping you. Got back with his ex. Dumped her and got back with you.

He went on a hen do of a woman he has previously shagged.

He is attending this woman's wedding and has purposely not asked you along as his plus one.

Fucking hell love. Come on. You deserve better than this. He's a pig.

You don't have to live this life. You don't trust him. Leave, while you still have your dignity.

This with bells on.

40?! I expected 20's you know better than to put up with this nonsense

@MiMw

Thank you everyone for taking the time to reply, I have been on here and asked but I just needed outside opinions. I think what I will do is tell him exactly how I feel, because I need to get it all of my chest. Your all right I need to end it, I wish it didn’t hurt. I don’t normally go around stalking peoples instagram and Facebook, I realise this is unhealthy hence why I’m reaching out for support. So thank you all xx

You're your own worst enemy if you do this. Write it all down. Burn the letter. Text to dump him, then block and don't communicate with him again.

Gosh. You are a fully grown adult with children.

I assumed that you were really young given the focus on social media.

This is not making your life better. He is not making you happy. So just stop.

If you can't trust him as a boyfriend, then you're not likely to trust him as a husband, and father of your children. And by then it's a HELL LOT more complicated.

I think the question of trust coming up now, so early in a relationship, is a huge red flag.

Using up more of your emotional energy 'getting it off your chest' is pointless. He'll argue black is white and tie you in knots again. Just have some dignity and walk away. He doesn't deserve an explanation.

You are tearing yourself up over a bloke!

Just finish it, you'll feel bad for a few days then you'll be glad you did.

Centre yourself and your kids.

@MiMw

We both have children and live an hour apart. So seeing each other regularly has been a challenge.

It's easy for us to sit and trash talk someone we don't know. So try and ignore the harsh comments. Let us know how you get on! Always follow your gut & your heart xxx

Some people are serial shaggers. They are, naturally, very charming and fun but nonetheless liars and cheats.

He is a serial shagger. Ditch him and enjoy your new found self respect.

Miss Natalie’s thank you 🙏

No trust= no relationship. It's that simple.

Your all right, I did the stupid thing and talked to him got no straight answers. It’s done and I feel so stupid to have not listened to myself

@MiMw

Your all right, I did the stupid thing and talked to him got no straight answers. It’s done and I feel so stupid to have not listened to myself

We've all done this at one point in our lives! How do you feel now?

why the hell is he going on a hen night? Aren't they and stags exclusively for 1 gender?

Just end the relationship. You sound very insecure and his behaviour isn't helping.

I feel so stupid that I have let someone make me feel like this. He dodged all the questions, one thing he said was I have a very varied group of friends I’m going to go out and have fun I don’t want you to stress over that. Nothing reassured me in his msg so I have to end it. I wish it didn’t hurt so much, wasted so much of my energy on this. I can’t stop crying

It's ok to be hurt and to cry, that just means you're a loving person and you've recognised this is the end. Now YOU go out and have fun. Make a bunch of arrangements for the next couple of weeks, then break up knowing you have lots of fun things planned to keep your mind off him.

@MiMw

I know but it hurts. I’m never normally like this in relationships but he says things and does things that make me question him all the time.

Trust your gut feeling. If you're never normally paranoid then I can guarantee your fears will be justified. It will just be a matter of time for the truth to come to the surface.

Over the years, I have come to trust that gut feeling and I am always right. It's a great resource to have, you just need to trust yourself.

Worrying about what he is up to is no way to live your life. Let him go and someone much better will come along.