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MiMw · 2022-02-06T00:59:19+00:00

Please can someone advise me. I have such a gut feeling not too trust him but no proof. Tonight he went on a hen do, which really bothered me but he has alot of female friends. I looked at his instagram and he has added a girl he clearly meet tonight who is stunning. He has liked her most recent photo of a bloody puppy. He hates dogs. How to say something without sounding mental and I now this probably makes me sound it, but it’s how he makes me feel. Always a reason for every thing that happens but it never sits right. Help me

Dishwashersaurous · 06/02/2022 07:27

OK. The main thing is why are you not going to the wedding?

Are you in a committed relationship, know each other friends and family and involved in each others lives?

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MiMw · 06/02/2022 07:33

Thank u. Your right x x

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MiMw · 06/02/2022 07:34

He hasn’t me. My plan is too ask today, so when is the wedding are you taking me? When he says no I will ask why after a year I’m not invited and tell me I can’t do it anymore. It’s not normal behaviour

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JustUseTheDoorSanta · 06/02/2022 07:37

@MiMw

He hasn’t me. My plan is too ask today, so when is the wedding are you taking me? When he says no I will ask why after a year I’m not invited and tell me I can’t do it anymore. It’s not normal behaviour

No, don't do this.

He doesn't make you happy. He has some odd lies going on, that all indicate he might be unfaithful. Even if he isn't, you're going crazy stalking Instagram because you can't trust him, and you don't think you're usually like this. So it isn't working out, and it won't work out. Time to break up with him and find yourself someone else who makes your happy.

DrManhattan · 06/02/2022 07:43

You don't have to give him a reason. I would end it, I know it will be painful but you need to look after yourself. It doesn't feel right, because it isn't.

Missnataliex · 06/02/2022 07:45

@MiMw

He hasn’t me. My plan is too ask today, so when is the wedding are you taking me? When he says no I will ask why after a year I’m not invited and tell me I can’t do it anymore. It’s not normal behaviour

Even if you are somehow invited to the wedding, it's probably best you politely decline and take some time apart to think about what you really want.

You shouldn't ever have to ask if you're invited to a wedding ... especially after 1 year of being together.

R0tational · 06/02/2022 07:45

Rip the plaster off and leave him. You don't love him, you are just attached and insecure. We have all been there....

Dishwashersaurous · 06/02/2022 07:46

The mere fact that you are spending the evening when he's out stalking him on social media says that you are not in a healthy place.

CristinaYangismySpiritAnimal · 06/02/2022 07:50

Oh god, end this sham of a relationship now!

ToykotoLosAngeles · 06/02/2022 07:51

I've been with DH since before even Facebook started and I have never known his friend/follower numbers.

There's no long term future here if he is like this after a year.

Mumdiva99 · 06/02/2022 07:56

He quite honestly probably doesn't have a plus 1 invite. Why would you be invited when you don't know the bride?

But apart from that - you need to leave him. Any relationship without trust is doomed. I don't know if it's him or you - bit for your mental health stop this now. In the future when you get together with a lovely partner who you trust implicitly you will look back on this and wonder why you put yourself through it. (And while I don't know enough to make a judgement the fact he lied to you about why you split makes me think it's him...Why lie to a partner?)

Sally872 · 06/02/2022 07:56

Forget the proof, he wont admit it. You are not going crazy and you'll have all the proof of that you need when you ditch him and don't doubt your own mind any more.

Dump him not because of the liked photo of a puppy or because he slept with the hen but because he makes you feel shit and crazy and loving him is not enough. You deserve better.

TopCatsTopHat · 06/02/2022 07:58

@MiMw

I know it’s unhealthy. I don’t know how I have let myself get like this, it’s like I just need to prove so I can tell myself I haven’t gone mad. It’s ridiculous. I love him so it really hurts

I imagine he has a lot of things about him which have made you really like him and want this relationship to work... but he has filled you with doubts. He has said lots of things that make you feel you are not standing on solid ground, and sadly that aspect of the package that is this guy trumps all the others. You've invested and why not, some relationships do develop and deepen and trust and commitment builds. He was good enough for you to invest and see if this was one of them. A year in, you now know that isn't happening, all the good stuff sadly isn't translating into reliable mutual love. It's a big shame, the only saving grace is you haven't wasted more than a year and you have no kids. But you don't want a life of churning stomach feelings and late night Internet snooping, that's a crap way to live. Really sorry he hasn't turned out to have the character you can build a solid relationship on. He has said lots of things that have planted seeds of doubt, that's on him. Chin up, you have a potential good thing your best shot and it was worth a try, even if it came to this.

Scianel · 06/02/2022 08:09

Seriously, end it. The whole thing is a pile of shite and you know it.

AgathaX · 06/02/2022 08:10

You need to send this unhealthy relationship now. It's making you unhappy. You're doubting yourself. Another year of this and you'll be even more unhappy with self esteem in your shoes. Hold your head up high and walk away. Don't look back.

SpiceRat · 06/02/2022 08:13

@MiMw

He hasn’t me. My plan is too ask today, so when is the wedding are you taking me? When he says no I will ask why after a year I’m not invited and tell me I can’t do it anymore. It’s not normal behaviour

God why are you even bothering? He’s lied to you about “needing space” so could get back with an ex, and you don’t trust him. There’s literally no future for a relationship of you don’t have a solid foundation of trust. End it now.

RaininSummer · 06/02/2022 08:20

Sounds mentally exhausting. It seems he has no reason not to take you to the wedding other than than being a selfish lothario. Ditch him.

HollowTalk · 06/02/2022 08:20

This man is the epitome of a dog with two dicks. I am sure he has lovable qualities but he really really isn't the man for you. When you're with someone that you love and trust you will notice the difference.

Journeynotdestination · 06/02/2022 08:26

This just makes me so sad. Why put yourself through such stress for a not nice person? End it and work on your self worth - life is amazing when you realise that you are enough and are worthy. You’ll probably find that you meet someone genuinely nice once you have done this and established firm and safe boundaries for yourself. Good luck.

GeneLovesJezebel · 06/02/2022 08:28

Save yourself the heart ache and end it.

starskey80 · 06/02/2022 08:30

Ah OP, he sounds like a total headfuck.

You need to end ut, he's making you miserable, probably on purpose. What man goes to the hen of someone they slept with????
Actually what man goes to a hen fullstop. He's not a nice person OP, and you deserve someone nice.

If you're not like this with other men that says alot.
No sleep is not good, you poor thing. You'll feel such a weight lifted once you end it. All you have to say is that it's not working for you anymore, because that's true, it's not.

jelly79 · 06/02/2022 08:36

Don't ask him about the wedding and then end him. It then sounds like you are fuming over no invite but actually you are not happy. He doesn't make you secure and happy. Part of that was taking him back

Knowing that detail about his Instagram is really unhealthy, cut your losses x

user94747295 · 06/02/2022 08:56

You honestly don't deserve to be treated like this.

Good luck, I really hope you leave him. Better off alone than living like this

BurbageBrook · 06/02/2022 09:03

Yep, total headfuck. LTB.

DorothyZbornakIsAQueen · 06/02/2022 09:13

So you got together and he lied about dumping you. Got back with his ex. Dumped her and got back with you.

He went on a hen do of a woman he has previously shagged.

He is attending this woman's wedding and has purposely not asked you along as his plus one.

Fucking hell love. Come on. You deserve better than this. He's a pig.

You don't have to live this life. You don't trust him. Leave, while you still have your dignity.