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Travelling DP and no contact

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Ziga · 03/02/2022 23:39

I’m a long term lurker, first time poster. Just wondering if someone can talk me down from my anxiety. My DP of 5 years has this morning flown home (he’s not from the U.K.) to visit friends & family for the first time since 2019.

His flight arrived at 12pm our time and I haven’t heard from him since - he said he’d text me when he landed etc, all the usual stuff - but nothing. I sent him a message on what’s app just asking if he’d gotten there ok and nothing. Just feeling a bit anxious although I’m sure everything is fine. Sorry for being so pathetic, just wondering what others think.

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Perpop · 04/02/2022 00:01

Things will most likely be ok - but I’d be anxious too! Can you message a family member to see if he arrived safely?

Theballoonsinthesky · 04/02/2022 00:02

Has the message gone through? I reckon he has network issues or something

Original poster
Ziga · 04/02/2022 00:03

Thanks so much for your message, much appreciated. I actually already did - no response there either. Which I think is making things worse!

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Original poster
Ziga · 04/02/2022 00:03

Just one tick, so not gone through. I’m sure it’s network issues but it’s just playing on my mind! Thanks for your reply though - it’s the most logical thing!

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Justkeeppedaling · 04/02/2022 00:04

Has he got roaming enabled on his phone?

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Ziga · 04/02/2022 00:06

Yes he does, I’m just going to keep telling myself everything is fine and it’s probably a phone/connection problem. It’s just always so easy to let your mind go to the worst place!

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Lennon80 · 04/02/2022 00:08

Could have lost his phone - lots of reasons. Don’t worry.

CraftyGin · 04/02/2022 00:11

Obviously DH hasn't travelled in 2 years, but he would not have contacted me on his business trips.

HomeHomeInTheRange · 04/02/2022 00:11

Since there have been no plane crashes, what are you thinking could have happened? Other than network / phone issues?

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Ziga · 04/02/2022 00:21

Thank you for all the replies. They’ve definitely made me feel better. Honestly I wasn’t even sure what I’m worried about, just that it’s so out of character. Thank you for all making me feel a bit better though!

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CharlotteRose90 · 04/02/2022 00:23

I’d be worried too. Do you know how flight number or what airline. I’d be checking flight radar to make sure it landed ok and if it did then I’d relax. He’ll be with his family and probably text tomorrow .

DinasCopUniform · 04/02/2022 00:24

@Ziga

Thank you for all the replies. They’ve definitely made me feel better. Honestly I wasn’t even sure what I’m worried about, just that it’s so out of character. Thank you for all making me feel a bit better though!
It's perfectly natural to worry, when it's not what he would normally do. I'd be the same as you, but I'm sure he will be in contact soon and all will be well Flowers
Scuttlingherbert · 04/02/2022 00:25

I wonder if Brexit and changes to roaming could be affecting this?

bedheadedzombie · 04/02/2022 00:29

Sounds like technical issues. If the plane had crashed it would have been world wide news. He'll get in touch once he solved the issue.

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Ziga · 04/02/2022 08:51

Still nothing - but what everyone is saying is right. It’ll be technical issues with his phone no doubt! Thanks all for your support - it’s always worse with a teething child & lack of sleep - feeling better this morning

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Workinghardeveryday · 04/02/2022 08:52

Can you not txt his family to make sure he is ok?

SeasonFinale · 04/02/2022 08:59

Sometimes it takes a while for the phone to work out which "network" to connect to assuming he has set his roaming on.

MrsSkylerWhite · 04/02/2022 08:59

You can check with the airline online that the flight landed safely.

If he’s not seen his family for a long time, it will all be emotional and exciting: people probably aren’t looking at their phones or thinking about anything much than seeing each other.

SeasonFinale · 04/02/2022 09:00

Phone may have tun out of charge and the there may also be a time difference which means he is sleeping for a lot of that time after travelling.

avobelly · 04/02/2022 09:33

When I traveled back home (EU) with a new phone last year, connecting to roaming was a nightmare. Took me several days and many hours on the phone with my network provider to sort it out - still not sure what caused it, but it was such a pain. I could send texts but not receive them, which wasn’t very helpful either.

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Ziga · 04/02/2022 09:37

I’ve sent some texts to his dad and obviously him, both have gone unanswered still but the flight has definitely landed safely. I’m sure it’s just lots of excited hellos. For some reason last night I was really anxious about it but now I feel much better. It’s my birthday tomorrow so he better find a way of getting in touch then! Thanks all

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Ziga · 04/02/2022 09:38

He’s in the EU & a new phone, so this could well be the problem. Thank you

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BitOutOfPractice · 04/02/2022 09:39

Can’t you just ring him?

Pyri · 04/02/2022 09:47

I’m sure he’s absolutely fine, just getting caught up with family and likely got phone issues

Don’t panic, just wait it out for now

Toanewstart22 · 04/02/2022 09:49

So now almost 24 hours and still no word?

Does he not have email?