Travelling DP and no contact

[Ziga]

I’m a long term lurker, first time poster. Just wondering if someone can talk me down from my anxiety. My DP of 5 years has this morning flown home (he’s not from the U.K.) to visit friends & family for the first time since 2019.

His flight arrived at 12pm our time and I haven’t heard from him since - he said he’d text me when he landed etc, all the usual stuff - but nothing. I sent him a message on what’s app just asking if he’d gotten there ok and nothing. Just feeling a bit anxious although I’m sure everything is fine. Sorry for being so pathetic, just wondering what others think.

I once went to France with a new phone and because I hadn't unlocked it or something, I couldn't use it. No phone signal, no 4G. But you think you'd find WiFi or get a family member to text you

Sounds like phone issues - either the sims not working or it’s been lost/stolen.

Do you have SM or anything he can contact you on?

Try not to worry. No news is good news remember.

But if it is phone issues
Abs he’s seeing friends and family
Could he not use their phone OR email!!

Have you tried emailing him?

He’s gone back to see his family, he’s missing your birthday, he’s left you with a teething baby and hasn’t bothered to check in on his child or you… not sounding that great is he?

I know people go on about “when my husband is away we’re both so independent we don’t need to speak ever” on here, but in reality it’s normal for a parent to want to speak to their child or at least check in on how they are, it’s normal to tell your partner you’ve arrived safely, and it’s normal to send the odd text and make the odd call.

Any update yet?

Are you doing anything for your birthday tomorrow?

Hey everyone - firstly thank you so much for all your kind words. I very much appreciate it all. About 20 minutes ago I received an email saying his phone isn’t working - network issues I’m guessing but that he’ll sort it in the next few days. We’ve already had words about if this was the best timing for him to go (baby, birthday etc!) but I also didn’t want to stop him from seeing family after so long. Thanks to all who kept me calm!

I’m glad he’s been in touch OP!

I don’t think anyone blames him for going to see family when most people haven’t been able to do so for 2 years.

Agreed - I’ve been lucky to have a lot of contact with mine over lockdowns etc.

I’m intrigued as to why you didn’t just ring him (then you’d have known his phone was playing up) or his dad who presumably has a working phone if he lives in the country.

OP tbh I wouldn't be best pleased in your position. I initially assumed he'd gone somewhere less developed where technical issues would be more understandable but the EU - not great. Other people have phones and there is presumably wifi so he could at least have got a quick message to you explaining at the time, not left it till the next day.

Sorry, I should have said I did ring him eventually but it didn’t connect. Then the next day he emailed me. His phone is “fixed” now but contact is very sporadic. I’m a bit pissed off too tbh but maybe I’m being unreasonable

Happy Birthday!!

Thank you Yuckypretty!