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Was this reasonable of nursery?

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lunavista · 03/02/2022 13:28

Nursery called me to pick up child as they had a temperature of 37 and he's not 'quite himself' .

I think that's unreasonable as that's not considered a high temperature?

I had made them aware that baby had a bit of a cold but was recovering. When I brought him home he was absolutely fine! Didn't have a temperature at all ( checked, just below 37).

I think babies are allowed to be a bit under the weather and their job is to accommodate that with in reason. AIBU?

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YellowLemonz · 03/02/2022 13:30

What time was his temp noticed?
Did they/you give calpol?

StayOrGoOrWhat · 03/02/2022 13:31

A temperature of 37 is completely normal?

UpToMyElbowsInDiapers · 03/02/2022 13:32

That seems a bit odd!

Thehop · 03/02/2022 13:32

You can always say “hmm, thy doesn’t seem particularly high. Can you try reading with him or doing his favourite activity for half an hour and let me know how he is please?”

Angryattrackandtrace · 03/02/2022 13:32

37 isn’t a temperature. I know I’m an adult (and I don’t have children) but my normal temp when I arrive at work is 37.2. Cools down during the day.. maybe it’s different for kids?!

ffscovid · 03/02/2022 13:32

37° is the normal body temperature Confused. It's not even borderline high.

YellowLemonz · 03/02/2022 13:33

I read it as 39 not 37 🙈

Yeah I would question it

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lunavista · 03/02/2022 13:35

@YellowLemonz

What time was his temp noticed? Did they/you give calpol?
Around 11am. He was due to be picked up by 1 anyway.

Odd thing is, I received a message in app that he was doing great just an hour before when he woke up from nap. Buzzard behaviour I think?

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TopsieGreenwood · 03/02/2022 13:36

Hard to say without seeing how ill he came across at nursery. If he seemed fine they wouldn't have sent him home

Ineedanightaway · 03/02/2022 13:38

My nursery have done this aot lately when they're understaffed due to covid. Cheeky!

Akire · 03/02/2022 13:39

That’s not a temperature. What is not himself? Crying uncontrollable not wanting be held or Settled Not playing with any toys is not being him self. Not quite being as happy or loud could mean he’s just tired or had minor tummy ache not a reason to get a parent out of work to collect them especially as going home in two hours. Maybe at a push worth a mention at pick up but no more.

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lunavista · 03/02/2022 13:39

@TopsieGreenwood

Hard to say without seeing how ill he came across at nursery. If he seemed fine they wouldn't have sent him home
I would appreciate that if he was inconsolable or clearly in pain or discomfort. But he was smily and chatty when I picked him up. We are five minutes away and when we got home he was playing with toys and just normal. Things don't change in 15 minutes that drastically surely! I feel that they just don't want a baby under the weather and a bit out of sorts but that's the job.
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lunavista · 03/02/2022 13:41

@Akire

That’s not a temperature. What is not himself? Crying uncontrollable not wanting be held or Settled Not playing with any toys is not being him self. Not quite being as happy or loud could mean he’s just tired or had minor tummy ache not a reason to get a parent out of work to collect them especially as going home in two hours. Maybe at a push worth a mention at pick up but no more.
Thank you! That's exactly my feeling. They said he was a bit clingy. I feel that they were understaffed and wanted to ease the pressure. Really annoying given I have now had to give up my work for the day, until partner arrives. Beyond cheeky really.
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itwasntaparty · 03/02/2022 13:42

37 is normal!

YellowLemonz · 03/02/2022 13:42

I feel that they just don't want a baby under the weather and a bit out of sorts but that's the job.

You've said they've said he wasn't himself, and that he was fine when home but then said he is under the weather and abit out of sorts so you know he's not right.

I don't think it's their job to look after poorly kids as that's not what nursery's are for.

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lunavista · 03/02/2022 13:44

@YellowLemonz

I feel that they just don't want a baby under the weather and a bit out of sorts but that's the job.

You've said they've said he wasn't himself, and that he was fine when home but then said he is under the weather and abit out of sorts so you know he's not right.

I don't think it's their job to look after poorly kids as that's not what nursery's are for.

Thank you but by that logic, they wouldn't be looking after any babies as they are often under the weather precisely because they picked them up at nursery.
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user94747295 · 03/02/2022 13:44

I would want to go and get my child if they seemed unwell to the staff.

Fetchthevet · 03/02/2022 13:46

While I agree with you that 37 isn't a high temperature, it is not their job to look after your child if they are under the weather / ill. If they believed your child was unwell, of course the right thing to do is to call you to come and him up. It's obviously inconvenient to you, but that's not their fault.

YellowLemonz · 03/02/2022 13:46

Thank you but by that logic, they wouldn't be looking after any babies as they are often under the weather precisely because they picked them up at nursery.

Not many people send their child to nursery knowing they aren't 100%

GeorgieTheGorgeousGoat · 03/02/2022 13:47

I've had some really poorly children who perk right up when mum arrives Grin A bit like when you take them to the dr and it feels like they're calling you a liar. I wouldn't do that though. However you are wrong dating that it's their job to look after a child who's under the weather, it really isn't.

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lunavista · 03/02/2022 13:47

@YellowLemonz

Thank you but by that logic, they wouldn't be looking after any babies as they are often under the weather precisely because they picked them up at nursery.

Not many people send their child to nursery knowing they aren't 100%

Wow! Judgy muchy??

We are not talking about an illness. We are talking about a cold and a mild one at that!

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Bex000 · 03/02/2022 13:48

I would prefer that they called and I checked on him rather than not call and risk him deteriorating!

ClaudiaWankleman · 03/02/2022 13:49

I don't think it's their job to look after poorly kids as that's not what nursery's are for.

Of course it is part of their job to look after children with colds or minor illnesses.

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lunavista · 03/02/2022 13:50

@GeorgieTheGorgeousGoat

I've had some really poorly children who perk right up when mum arrives Grin A bit like when you take them to the dr and it feels like they're calling you a liar. I wouldn't do that though. However you are wrong dating that it's their job to look after a child who's under the weather, it really isn't.
Thank you I appreciate that and it is true. In my mind though there's a difference between someone who is a bit under the weather and someone who is I'll. what annoyed me is the fact that they used a non existent fever. And honestly, an hour before they sent me a message to say how well he was doing. Which is confusing.
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JellyMouldJnr · 03/02/2022 13:51

In pre-covid times I would agree with you, but I have seen a lot of kids who have tested positive for Covid whose only symptoms were a slight temp and/or being under the weather. I think its fair to say he should not be at nursery.

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