Urgent/Quick advice - misspelt someone’s name

[Krupkrups]

Am I an absolute twonk (yes, yes I am)! Added someone to a WhatsApp group. Quite a few in group – not friendship.

Relatively new to the group myself so wouldn’t want to not impress if that makes sense. Added someone else, sent a message to the group saying I’ve added ‘misspelt name’ didn’t want it to seem random. Then to them personally letting them know I’d done it.

Misspelt the flaming name!! It’s an unusual’ish name with 2 possible spellings, one I know well, obviously they it the other way don’t they!
Person messaged me to apologise to say I’m so sorry I should have sent you my actual details and spelt my name as people often misspell it (think they are possibly just being kind).

They said they would introduce themselves formally at some point and apologise. Apologise for what me, I think they mean for not giving me the correct name rather than on my behalf, but surely that’s just weird?!? I’m crumbling already!

I HATE things like this, I feel so embarrassed. What do I do?? Say no, let me apologise, see what they say? Take the lead and apologise and on the group then message them privately to say, so sorry, I have apologised and corrected on the group?

I can’t even blame autocorrect as I misspelt it on the direct message to them.

This is not a big deal.

What? You are stressing over nothing, my name can be spelt three different ways and it’s nearly always spelt differently throughout the day, it’s just what it is.

Its not issue at all, the person said they would introduce themselves to the group using the right spelling. Stop stressing.

This is a non-issue.

You are massively over reacting and over thinking. This is such a non event. Correct the name and don't give it a second thought

Don’t do anything. Reply privately to the person saying ‘oh dear, so sorry, I know now’. Don’t do anything else.

Wow, relax! Just pop a message on the group saying ‘oops sorry, my mistake, this is x person, it’s actually spelled xyz’. Done!

Chill.

Just say - so sorry - I’ll correct, and do that.

No big deal.

are you serious ???
sound like a tweenager !

Yep just chill, it's fine!

I literally yesterday just spelt our managing director’s surname wrong when I was setting him up on our new annual leave system.

I just did a 🙈 emoji into the staff group chat, apologised and fixed it.

By getting into a flap about it you’ll look like a tit.

I understand your embarrassment, it's the kind of thing I would fret over too! I don't think you need to do anything in the What's App group, as long as the name is pronounced the same? (Say you wrote Katie but it's actually spelt Katy). As long as you've apologised privately to that person all will be forgiven!

Don't worry, not a big deal. I'd just write to the chat "sorry all, it's actually "name", just wanted to correct myself"
Or something along those lines. No one will bat an eyelid

Meh. It happens. Don’t worry.

If this is your reaction you have more issues than a misspelt name.

Seriously, this is a non issue.

People spell my name wrong all the time - even people I've known for decades in some cases. It doesn't bother me in the slightest - the one I usually get is the most common spelling, and there are a couple of other variations, but it doesn't matter a jot.
My DD has her name spelt wrong by various people, including a particular family member - she doesn't care either.

Total non-issue. Just say, whoops, sorry, I misspelled X's name! Or just let her correct it when she introduces herself.

Umm...just spell their name correctly next time...

jeez, how is this even worthy of a post! If there's 2 possible spellings of the name they're bound to be used to it by now.

@alexdgr8 AND @ChudraWouldaShouldya thanks for being so delightful! Yes I do actually, was just going note, yes I happy to be told I'm getting in a flap but I have terrible social anxiety after effectively being out of society for so long - not worked or met very many new people since 2017 due to have two babies very close together, then like the past two years in lockdown (like everyone else) I also feel hyper aware that people have become more sensitive very easy to offend etc. and I have completely lost confidence and a sense of perspective of what matters. Sorry!

And cheers to those that have answered, you've set my mind at rest that people won't think I'm a numpty forever more!

Why don't you delete your message welcoming them and resend with the correctly spelt name? I really wouldn't worry about it. Would you be bothered if someone accidentally misspelt your name?

[quote Krupkrups]**@alexdgr8* AND @ChudraWouldaShouldya* thanks for being so delightful! Yes I do actually, was just going note, yes I happy to be told I'm getting in a flap but I have terrible social anxiety after effectively being out of society for so long - not worked or met very many new people since 2017 due to have two babies very close together, then like the past two years in lockdown (like everyone else) I also feel hyper aware that people have become more sensitive very easy to offend etc. and I have completely lost confidence and a sense of perspective of what matters. Sorry![/quote]
Harsh yes, intended to offend no.

Please don’t waste any more brain space on this, it really is ok

Saying this kindly , you are overthinking this x

I really wouldn't worry. There are a good few spelling for my name. It wouldn't have bothered me, and it doesn't seem to have bothered her. I'd probably just eventually introduce myself and drop in the correct spelling of my name